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Going to do more dress shopping on Saturday!

So, I am not completely sold 100% on what I thought I was wanting to do for my wedding look.  I was going to go retro with a tea length dress and have only tried on tea length dresses.  But, I always dress that way and thought I should at least try on some other wedding dresses. I have two appointments this Saturday at some nice wedding dress shops and can't wait.

Plus, I am also dealing with the is it worth the extra stress to have my mom make me my wedding dress vs coming up with more money to buy one. My mom is an amazing seamstress and has made items for many famous people.  I do not have any problem trusting her ability.  She can bustle like you wouldn't believe, too!

But, just it one thing to decide on a dress. It's a whole other thing to then pick from over 100 fabrics for the dress and all of the details and extras.  Last time we went to the fabric store I was so overwhelmed and couldn't even deal with it.  We were there for hours and I couldn't decide on anything! Plus, not knowing exactly how it's going to look until it's all together is hard, too.  I can feel my stress level raising just thinking about it!  UGH!

I'm just going to stop thinking about it and see what happens on Saturday.

Re: Going to do more dress shopping on Saturday!

  • breanessbreaness member
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    edited December 2011
    When my BFF was supposed to make my dress, I started by going to places and trying stuff on, figuring out what shape/style/fabric I liked best and then working on the design from there. It can definitely be overwhelming, but if you find something you love then it will be easier to make the choices.

    I have to say I can completely relate and I ended up picking a store bought dress just to ease my mind and make it easier on everyone. And the price ended up being awesome!
  • sld0618sld0618 member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    What about finding *your dress* and having your mom make that exact dress?  Or finding one that you love but would change *blank* about it and having your mom do the same one but your changes?  It would be a lot easier and not as over whelming I think!
  • edited December 2011
    It depends on your mom's style.  My mom loves making everything to feel involved, but I wouldn't want the stress of the dress on her.  My mom actually wanted to make all of the centerpieces, but the last wedding we went to, the mom missed the bridal shower & spa day because she was so rushed.  So I decided my mom could do some things, like tying chair ties, which made her feel involved, without the entire burden of something that is the critical path.

    So, maybe buy your dress and let your mom design/do the bustle?  And a veil? 
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  • motoLynmotoLyn member
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    edited December 2011
    I thought about it and my first instinct was to say that you should buy one from a store to save you and your mom any added stress.  Trust me I understand the feeling of overwhelming when looking at a mountain of options.  That's what happened to me when FI and I went ring shipping at the jewelry district in Los Angeles.  I wanted to forget the whole mess cause my head was spinning.  But Tanq has expressed it better than I can.  So I agree with what Tanq wrote.  Perhaps that way there is still something hand made and special in your wedding, but no need for the added stress.  Good luck!  I look forward to seeing what you choose.
  • kimmykupcakeskimmykupcakes member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm going tomorrow to look and dresses and I think that will help me figure it out.  If I find the dress and it's in a price I can afford than I will buy it.  Right now I am leaning towards buying it just to have less stress.  I know my mom could make whatever I want, but I also know that the whole process of it will greatly stress me out. If I find the one I want, I can have her bustle and add on extras to make it unique to just me.
  • maui2011maui2011 member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011

    From watching wedding shows and listening/reading what brides/former brides have to say i think you are better off buying a dress...this way you know exactly what it will look like on and as you said your mom can do the bustle and other alternations to make it unique and more you.  Plus, try not to stress yourself out about it as you still have time on your side...if you find "the" dress tomorrow then a big check with a even bigger yeah...if you find "the" dress but it is out of our price range then wait for it to go on sale.  If you come away with nothing try not to let it stress you out...give yourself a break and try again later. HTH! J. :-)

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