Way ahead of the game..but still feel overwhelmed.. kind of a vent

Re: Way ahead of the game..but still feel overwhelmed.. kind of a vent

• hollyweenOR

  

  April 2012

  If you're ahead, take a break!! A big one, like a month. Put away your binder, stash the wedding mags, maybe plan some kind of short term NWR project for the month (clean up the garden & plant some new things? Or paint a room & make some small updates?), put any truly important, can't-wait WR calls or follow-ups on your calendar, minimize visits to TK, and forget about the rest. Get some good exercise, do some fun things w/ your fi. Daydream about the time *after* the wedding!

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• cookiej84 member

  

  April 2012

  I'm glad I'm not the only one feeling this way!  I had a "nightmare" last night that I never got my dress hemmed, and didn't have shoes for the wedding.  I've got all the majors done, now it's just all the details.  Deep breaths....

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• cronin85

  

  April 2012 edited April 2012

  Thanks ladies.... deep breaths it is!

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• PrettyInPearls23

  

  April 2012

  You're probably feeling anxious because you've been working on so much that now you're hitting a "lull" and feel like there's something you're forgetting about. You're way ahead of the game. Relax and pat yourself on the back for being so on top of things!

  
  

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• ElleSTAR84 member

  

  April 2012

  I can totally relate to how you feel. I've been dealing with anxiety my entire life. I tend to be very proactive when it comes to everything. For example, My fiance and I are getting married this September and by last October we had already booked a venue, dj, photographer, ordered (and picked up) my dress, found an officiant and even ordered our cake. I started breaking out into hives ever since we started planning. I've been completely stressed and overwhelmed to the point where i've gained probably 15 lbs cause I eat when im stressed. I've had a few nightmares, 1 including losing my engagement ring (which cant ever happen mostly because the diamonds belonged to my recently deceased mother in law) and the other was when I was walking down the aisle nobody seemed to care. they all got up and walked out. I know I should take my own advice here but you definitely need to take a break. even if its just taking a week off from anythign wedding related. I understand it's much easier said than done. but thats what i did I'm sleeping better and not eating as much. (lol) The catering portion of the wedding is whats stressing me out the most due to costs but its expected. Most of my stress has to do with how much everything costs. But like i said, take a week off. do something that'll distract you from wedding plans and you'll feel much better. Just breathe! i'm sure youre wedding will be everything you dreamed it would be.     

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• cronin85

  

  April 2012

  ElleSTAR84...you said exactly like me!! We got engaged September 2010 and by April 2011 I had everything booked (DJ, Photographer, venue, cake, florist etc;)  I am very "OCD" when it comes to finances (thats what I do for a living lol)  I guess I am just worried that something wont go as "planned" as far as paying for the venue and my honeymoon.  We have already hit a few bumps in the road (my FI needs his wisdom teeth pulled, his car crapped out and my FMIL who was the one that pushed for the big wedding and promised to help pay for certain things  has now quit her job and went back to school... all which is now going to cost me and my FI alot more money then we expected!)  Dont get me wrong I am very proud of the FMIL for wanting to better herself..but seriously?!?! she should have told us from the beginning that this was going to happen and she should have never promised us anything (I dont expect it)

  
  

  
  

  Thanks for listening to me vent (certainly cant express that to my FI lol)

  
  

  Thanks for all the advise!

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• ElleSTAR84 member

  

  April 2012

  I can talk to my fiance about it but she (yes, she) cant relate to how I feel because she doesnt have anxiety, or ocd, or anything else of that nature. Makes it very hard because i'm the one that tosses and turns and worries about every single thing. She sleeps peacefully at night and I get so frustrated because I just wish I could be more like her and not let things get to me.  We had an issue with her brother because we said we didnt want kids at the wedding and her brother got so offended by it. We both decided we didnt want kids there, after a really bad experience at a wedding we were at last year we just cut them out completely. I love kids, but i know that i would be even more stressed out if I see them running all over the place and having temper tantrums. His kids are 4 and 1. Kids that young dont belong at a wedding, theyll be so bored. I cant exactly tell her that her brother can go pound sand (lol). I dont need to have drama with my inlaws over something like this so I told her she needs to be the one to deal with it. I have enough to deal with. I try not to be negative but I just know that when it comes down to paying off these vendors its going to be difficult. That definitely stinks that your FMIL said she would help out and now all of a sudden she cant. Id be quite irritated by that because then I wouldve done things much differently. i'm trying so hard to relax and be realistic about certain things, like how I hope and pary everything goes perfectly but im sure something will go wrong. Thats just the way it is...just some of arent good at "rolling with the punches".
  

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