When is too late to send an invitation?

De Velasquez · April 2011

When is "too late, I am sorry", for you?

vicki0508 · April 2011

If it's obvious I was B-listed, I wouldn't go. Unless I knew the couple was sending invites out rather late, or some other intervening circumstance, receiving an invitation one or two weeks before the wedding says B-list to me.

McKenna2012 · April 2011

If I didn't receive it until 2 weeks before, I would assume I was on the B list and wouldn't attend.

Summer2011Bride · April 2011

Yeah I'm against B-listing people. Typically, invites go out 6-8 weeks before the wedding, sooner if it's a DW. Send them all at one time.

[Deleted User] · April 2011

Ditto the others. I would never accept a B list invite.

Miracle520 · April 2011

I think beyond feeling B-listed, I'd also be a little offended that you'd expect me to drop whatever plans I had with just a few weeks notice.

ootmother2 · April 2011

Generallly, It's too late to send an invitation if it's after you dropped all the rest of the invitations in the mail.

There can be exceptions but not often

faye37 · April 2011

I'm surprised by these responses! If I wanted to go and I was free that day, I'd go. If not, I'd RSVP that I couldn't go. There are tons of extra people I'd like to invite to my wedding but when you have a budget and venue limits, you have to draw the line somewhere...

Example: I believe I was B-listed for one of my former roommate's weddings. She had a lot of out of town extended family, and when they RSVP'd "no," she was able to extend an invite to me

It was a super fun wedding and I was glad I was able to celebrate with her

jena.n.ross · April 2011

Depends on who it is, how much I wanted to go, and if I were free. As Faye said, you have to draw the line somewhere, and for many people that means family first. If family obligations are met, but they can't come, it frees you up to invite more friends. I would expect my friend's relatives to be more important, and wouldn't be offended by it. If a spot opened for me to attend, then yay for me.

ajroark · April 2011

It really depends on the circumstances. I don't think there's a specific time cut-off when I just wouldn't attend based on principle. If I had nothing going on in two weeks and received an invitation, I just might show up. I personally don't see why everyone is so offended by being B-listed. I would never make a B-list, but I had a friend who originally only invited family to her small, budget wedding and after some family RSVP'd no, she said she would love for me to come. I wasn't offended at all; I was just happy to invited! Also, why are we all assuming that if we receive an invite after 6 weeks, we've been B-listed?

De Velasquez · April 2011

Thank you for your answers, I was just curious, as my parents received an invitation two weeks before, AND with gift registry, so, it was a little uncomfortable for them. I found it a little inappropriated, as it is the wedding of the daughter of a friend of my father, I don't really know if the girl was my father's patient or what, but the relationship is not that close to also include gift registry in the invitation... That's what I think...

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