Band Rant and FI troubles [medium long]

geojam224 · May 2012

So of all the decisions that needed to be made for the wedding, I put FI in charge of music. I don't care about music, I would play an iPod all night if it were up to me, but he's a music guy- classically trained, loves classic jazz, really appreciates good music. So he opted for a live band. And a good one. Like the 2nd most expensive band in Northeast Ohio. The price made me sick to my stomach, but as he convinced me we could afford it and that it would totally be worth it, I let go of the wheel and put him in charge here.

Well, as wedding planning is now kicked up a notch, I've been in contact with all of the vendors quite a bit lately. The band is by far the MOST COMPLICATED vendor I've had to deal with. I'm constantly complaining about all the hoops those divas are making us jump through. FI takes my complaints personally since it was his only wedding decision. And frankly, I would too.

Examples: If they are going to set up a sound system for the ceremony, they want an extra $150. Fine. If they are going to set up before guests arrive they want yet another $150. Wait. What?! You want $150 to be professional? And we have to buy you dinner? And you won't come to any meetings? And we have to give you 30 days notice of any songs we want that aren't on the list- a document you didn't give us until 31 days before the wedding? WHAT?!

We have a meeting with them tomorrow and FI thinks if I'm not 100%, we need to fire them 3 weeks before the wedding. I said I'm looking forward to them delivering- and I'm sure they will. But I'm not dealing with them. He's super offended. Am I wrong?

leahstinson · May 2012

out of curiosity, who is it? a band with jerry bruno?

mandi921vh · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_band-rant-and-fi-troubles-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:6bbb360e-5f5e-4e51-8bed-1670a59f0555Post:b193426b-689d-4772-a06e-d619800ada3e">Band Rant and FI troubles [long]</a>:
[QUOTE]So of all the decisions that needed to be made for the wedding, I put FI in charge of music. I don't care about music, I would play an iPod all night if it were up to me, but he's a music guy- classically trained, loves classic jazz, really appreciates good music. So he opted for a live band. And a good one. Like the 2nd most expensive band in Northeast Ohio. The price made me sick to my stomach, but as he convinced me we could afford it and that it would totally be worth it, I let go of the wheel and put him in charge here. Well, as wedding planning is now kicked up a notch, I've been in contact with all of the vendors quite a bit lately. The band is by far the MOST COMPLICATED vendor I've had to deal with. I'm constantly complaining about all the hoops those divas are making us jump through. FI takes my complaints personally since it was his only wedding decision. And frankly, I would too. Examples: If they are going to set up a sound system for the ceremony, they want an extra $150. Fine. <strong>If they are going to set up before guests arrive they want yet another $150. Wait. What?! You want $150 to be professional? And we have to buy you dinner?</strong> And you won't come to any meetings? <strong> And we have to give you 30 days notice of any songs we want that aren't on the list- a document you didn't give us until 31 days before the wedding? WHAT?! </strong>We have a meeting with them tomorrow and FI thinks if I'm not 100%, we need to fire them 3 weeks before the wedding. I said I'm looking forward to them delivering- and I'm sure they will. But I'm not dealing with them. He's super offended. Am I wrong?
Posted by geojam224[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>1. It sounds like this is a set up fee charge, which is normal for a DJ or band...</div><div>2. It is polite to feed your vendors, many have that built into their contract...</div><div>3. It is normal for bands to want specific songs you want heard that are not on their typical play list because this requires them to learn this song and rehearse it, although it is strange they gave it to you so late...</div><div>
</div><div>I would ask them if they would make and exception about adding songs that aren't on their list... maybe they can do a few...</div><div>
</div><div>I hope you get this all worked out!

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geojam224 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_band-rant-and-fi-troubles-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:6bbb360e-5f5e-4e51-8bed-1670a59f0555Post:1f2d7181-49b5-4195-924e-164f559a9fca">Re: Band Rant and FI troubles [long]</a>:
[QUOTE]out of curiosity, who is it? a band with jerry bruno?
Posted by leahstinson[/QUOTE]

<div>Yup- The Avenue with Jerry Bruno. They're amazing, but I'm just fed up with their requests. Right now I'm faking my enthusiasm for them so FI doesn't cancel right now. My caterer and event manager (acting wedding planner) have both told me they will keep them in their place and have gone out of their way to put me at ease regarding this band. I just hope it's all worth it....</div>

geojam224 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_band-rant-and-fi-troubles-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:6bbb360e-5f5e-4e51-8bed-1670a59f0555Post:70bf699b-33ea-4e78-a926-ad74205f0402">Re: Band Rant and FI troubles [long]</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Band Rant and FI troubles [long] : 1.<strong> It sounds like this is a set up fee charge, which is normal for a DJ or band...</strong> 2. It is polite to feed your vendors, many have that built into their contract... 3. It is normal for bands to want specific songs you want heard that are not on their typical play list because this requires them to learn this song and rehearse it, although it is strange they gave it to you so late... I would ask them if they would make and exception about adding songs that aren't on their list... maybe they can do a few... I hope you get this all worked out!
Posted by mandi921vh[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm sorry, I should have mentioned that there is no charge if they set up right before they play (dinner time). So if they set up during dinner, no fee, but if I want them set up before guests arrive, $150. That's why I felt they were charging me for professionalism</div>

leahstinson · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_band-rant-and-fi-troubles-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:6bbb360e-5f5e-4e51-8bed-1670a59f0555Post:59cc66f1-9d3b-4ead-8162-de72ca0c7f70">Re: Band Rant and FI troubles [long]</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Band Rant and FI troubles [long] : Yup- The Avenue with Jerry Bruno. They're amazing, but I'm just fed up with their requests. Right now I'm faking my enthusiasm for them so FI doesn't cancel right now. My caterer and event manager (acting wedding planner) have both told me they will keep them in their place and have gone out of their way to put me at ease regarding this band. I just hope it's all worth it....
Posted by geojam224[/QUOTE]

<div>they are great but they are divas BUT most bands I have worked with are. They really act like thy are someone that's on a billboard chart but they are great so it'll all be worth it. </div><div>
</div><div>And def. feed them! </div>

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