I guess I've got some specific questions. Preface: I've seen some posts get really heated and insulting on this board in particular, so I just want to say that I'm not trying to be snarky, I'm just a young bride so I need some guidance! Guest list is appx. 200. It's not a super formal wedding, we're a spunky couple, but I don't want it to be tacky either.
1. No alcohol- I'll be under 21 and we don't drink, my father is a recovering addict, the presence of drunk people agitates me and I don't want to be thinking about it that day, and I'm of the opinion that if you are really not going to come or come and complain about it the whole time (out loud or otherwise) then maybe I don't want you there after all. Don't plan on putting it on the invites or anything, just word of mouth. Rude, roll-your-eyes tacky, or an okay individual preference?
2. FI likes topsy turvy cakes. Not the super cartoony ones, more like regular wedding cake decorations but in the topsy turvy shape. I have no preference here but my family all hates it. Rude, roll-your-eyes tacky, or an okay individual preference?
3. We are pretty devoted Christians so our music playlist has been altered dramatically. The classics will still be used but we're going to use a lot of Christian bands. There is definitely enough dance-able music, slow and fast, just that people may not know all of the songs. Rude, roll-your-eyes tacky, or an okay individual preference?
4. We don't live together, but he lives on his own, so there's not a whole lot of basic registry stuff that we'd need. The only things would be bigger: bed, washer/dryer, things like that. Cash would of course be lovely, but I'm just very confused on the rules as far as expectations of gifts. Like, why is it okay to register for anything ever if it's rude to EXPECT gifts from anyone? I don't assume we could put those bigger items on a registry or do no registry at all and ask for cash by word of mouth? idk, just need the beginners' course there I guess.
Thanks in advance for all the help!