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11 Bridesmaids (including moh)

jkskradskijkskradski member
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I want 11 (possibly 9) bridesmaids, and thus 11 (9) groomsmen. My fiance doesn't. All of the women are close friends, sisters of the groom or relatives that are important to me. Any suggestions as to how to remedy this?
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Re: 11 Bridesmaids (including moh)

  • jkskradskijkskradski member
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    edited December 2011
    I want 11 (possibly 9) bridesmaids, and thus 11 (9) groomsmen. My fiance doesn't. All of the women are close friends, sisters of the groom or relatives that are important to me. Any suggestions as to how to remedy this?
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  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    edited December 2011
    There does not need to be 11 GM just because you want 11 BM.
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  • sparent2010sparent2010 member
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    edited December 2011
    Agreed with PP. You can just have a few GM and then have women and men on both sides of the alter. If you have not asked them all you can have some escort flower girl or ring bearer, this is what we are doing to keep our WP small... 
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  • hboo2011hboo2011
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    edited December 2011
    1) Sides do not need to be even. 2) Groom's sister(s) can stand up on his side.
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  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    edited December 2011

    Yeah, requiring "even" sides can turn some of those people into a photo op.  You know the ones you HAD to ask so the sides would be even, the one you asked super close to you wedding because you lost a BM and the sides HAVE to be even.  No they don't.

    I have no clue where that tradition came from that made it such an iron fisted rule.  Way back in the day it would have been blasphemous not to have even sides - but why?  This is one thing all you younger ladies don't have to worry about.  Your generation thought for a minute and figured out there is no sane reason why this is mandatory.  Don't worry about it.

    I will toss this out there:  Have you and your FI considered the expense of such a huge wedding party?  Gifts for everyone, flowers for everyone, RD for everyone PLUS their spouses/fi's/so's?  You are adding a tremendous expense to your wedding budget here. You may really want to rethink this.

    Looks like your wedding a year from today. Please please please don't ask anyone to be in the wedding party for at least another 4 months.  That is plenty of time to order dresses and you have probably noticed a lot of posts about firing BMs because the bride and BM have grown apart or had a fight.

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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    edited December 2011
    Did you think about having one or two of the girls you want to ask to be BM's do a reading instead?  I know that it is your decision but 11 girls is a lot.  I have been to weddings where they had this many people on both sides and it just looked ridiculous to me.  Remember being invited to the wedding is an honor as well.  I also have to agree with PP about the cost on you to have all these people in your WP.  Really think about who you want to ask and why you are asking them.  I feel like some brides need to have a large WP just to make things look more official or formal.  A large WP will not make your wedding any better than another wedding which only had a MOH and best man.

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  • bgoguenbgoguen
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    edited December 2011
    My friend had 10 GM and 10 BM and they felt in the end that it was way too much! Their pictures came out looking beautiful, but somewhat crowded... I would recommend that you try to cut down on that number if there are people that you're iffy on.  

     I have 7 on each side, and I absolutely adore everyone in my party and don't regret including them, but I'm definitely feeling a bit stretched from the size of the party. The saying should be "More bridesmaids, more problems." As other posters have said, gifts and flowers for everyone add up quickly! 
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  • jkskradskijkskradski member
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    edited December 2011
    I ended up changing my # to 6.  I eliminated 4 of the people and one of them ended up choosing to do the photography instead.
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