RSVP date/Invitation timeline

AshNoel8 · April 2011

The girl who is designing my invitations just finished and she e-mailed me the design and it looks amazing! She said she can have them to me hopefully by the end of the week. I am just wondering how soon to send them out. TK says at the 3 month mark, but that seems kind of early to me, especially since we sent save-the-dates. (Not to mention that the 3 month mark has already passed haha). How far in advance did you girls send them out? Did whether or not you sent save-the-dates have anything to do with when you sent the invitations?

Also, how long before your wedding did you make your RSVP date? I told the designer June 10th, which is almost a month before the wedding. Is that pretty accurate?

kellya01 · April 2011

Mine is July 16, and we picked June 10th as well. Gives us about 1.5 to 2 weeks to call anyone that forgot to RSVP. We are mailing ours around the 1st week of May. I think the rule I've heard about invitations timeline is 8 weeks, maybe a bit longer if you didn't send STD's. We didn't send STD's, so we're going a bit before the 8-week mark.

azdancer8 · April 2011

We sent our invites about nine weeks before the wedding, but we had a lot of out of state guests, so I wanted to send them a bit early. I think two months before is pretty standard. Our RSVP reply date was a month before the wedding, which gave us some flex time with the holidays.

untherapy · April 2011

I'm sending mine out closer to 3 months ahead - half our guest list will need to fly across country if they come, and I want to make sure no one HAS to pay expensive last minute fares.

So if you're already closer than 3 months just send them out whenever you get them and finish addressing your envelopes.

DramaGeek · April 2011

Most people send their invites out 6-8 weeks ahead. I think we went closer to 10 because we got married right before Christmas and I was concerned about conflicts with holiday events. For the RSVP date, take the date your caterer needs final headcoutn and add a week or two to that. A month seems REALLY early to me and I wouldn't be surprised if you get a bunch of RSVPs that change within a couple of weeks of your due date.

GJones27 · April 2011

I sent them out two months in advance, with the exception of the international invites which went out 2.5-3 months out in advance. I'm having them reply three week before the wedding.

kitkat610 · April 2011

I would have liked mine to go out at the 2 month mark, but my aunt is addressing them and she is not done yet so it will be more like 6 weeks.
We sent out save the dates around January which was almost 6 months out.
RSVPS are due 2 1/2 weeks before the wedding which is 1 month after they go out. Also, most people are driving distance.

ReebokJ · April 2011

I sent mine out at the 10-month mark, and my RSVP deadline is a month before the wedding-- lots of out-of-town guests, and I need to give my vendors final head counts shortly after that date. My STDs went out sometime in January (gave them to FI to send while I was out of town).

mrandmrsbrist · April 2011

From what I've heard so far, we're sending ours at 8 weeks. We sent Save the Dates kind of late and final counts for the caterer and venue aren't due until the week before, so I really don't have any reason to rush it.

mattycam · April 2011

DH and I got married in March and sent out invites early December (to avoid the Christmas rush). We were also sending quite a bit to out of towners and there were people that required a lot of notice to book the time off (we got married on a Friday). Our RSVP deadline was mid January. It worked out because between January and March, things came up for some of our guests where they were not able to attend so we were able to invite other people within a timely manner.

I think the "etiquette" is 6-8 weeks before your wedding.

AshNoel8 · April 2011

Thanks girls! You were very helpful. I think I will try to send them by the end of the first week in May. Do you think I should keep the RSVP at June 10th? Originally she had put May 31st, but I thought that was WAY early. June 10th is exactly 4 weeks before the wedding. I think final counts have to be in 2 weeks before. I thought about changing it to June 17th, but I feel bad asking her to change it again.

kellya01 · April 2011

My final counts also have to be in by 2 weeks before the wedding, so we know that June 10 is about 4 weeks before, but it ensures that we'll have the most accurate count for our food and cake. We already have a decent idea about some people we KNOW won't be able to come, but I think June 10 isn't TOO far out for someone to say for sure. I would agree with you that May 31 is a bit too early.

DramaGeek · April 2011

I can't believe how early your final counts have to be in!

mattycam · April 2011

My final count had to be in 2 weeks before the wedding as well. It would have been nice if it was closer to the date, this way we wouldnt have to be scrambling to fill sudden cancellations.

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