Birthdays for babys

katiewhompus · March 2010

I am skipping my friend's daughter's birthday party for the second year in a row. Part of me feels bad, but hey, it's my birthday and I would like to have my own celebration with friends/family too. Her daughter is also 2.
I just can't get excited to go to a 2 years birthday party when I've only seen her about 3 times. I don't know any of M's other friends and don't have kids of my own to bring over there for playtime.
I'm sure it will change after I have kids, but invited 30 adults to your house for a 2 year olds birthday just seems like "awing my child".
Am I crazy?

aMrsin09 · March 2010

Well, being guilted into going to the B'day party for my friends 2 yr old resulted in me adopting my first cat (thereby saiving said cat from said 2 year old)

So they aren't all bad ;-)

JessAndTrav · March 2010

There's not really an option that I'm feeling.

I go to parties for kids that I'm related to, but I don't have any friends with kids that are close enough to me for me to get the invite.

My sister is about to have a party for my nephew's 4th birthday, but it's usually just family and any friends of hers that have young children too.

ThePinkSuperhero · March 2010

I think it's odd. You invite the adults for the 1 year party, but that's only because that party is just an excuse for the parents to celebrate keeping the baby alive for a year. After that, birthday parties are for kids and the grownups attached to them.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · March 2010

That's the kind of thing where you invite family. I'm pretty sure it was just my parents and grandparents at my first 2 or 3 birthday parties, before I had friends from pre-school.

ggmae · March 2010

I like going to kids' birthday parties. We have a few small children in my extended family and it's always nice to get together and celebrate their birthdays.

AlexiaANDRobert · March 2010

I just spent an hour and a half at Chuck E Cheese for a coworker's 4 year old. It's just boring. I understand that she's cute and all that, but it's just not my thing. I go because I care about the family. Her previous birthdays have been at her house and they've been fun because we can actually chat. This was just hellish.

I only have one nephew and he's not even one yet, but I'm looking forward to that event cause I'm related to the kid.

luckyme502 · March 2010

I would go for a family member, but not a friend, unless it was a close friend and I knew a bunch of people going. My daughter's first birthday was mostly adults, after that just family and other kids.

katiewhompus · March 2010

Hmmm true on relative kids. I really enjoy going to my nieces birthdays (2nd and 3rd) but its normally just family.
It is frustrating when we buy her a gift and then sil donates it the next year though...at least keep it a little while!

JessAndTrav · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_birthdays-babys?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d4816234-b17c-4fb3-8c8b-d23a683573b8Post:33fbe064-c2e1-416c-9432-07609addd182">Re: Birthdays for babys</a>:
[QUOTE]It is frustrating when we buy her a gift and then sil donates it the next year though...at least keep it a little while!
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]

But think about how much room all of those toys take up. The kid will out-grow the toy or lose interest in it, so why keep it?

ETA: Why keep it if the kid has already out-grown or lost interest in it. That came out weird.

tlv204 · March 2010

I don't really know any young children at the moment, at least not that I see often, so I don't know. But I imagine they would be fun if you can have fun with the other adults.

katiewhompus · March 2010

I know the logic behind it, and Z gets a shiton of toys from everyone, she already has 2 rooms filled with them. It just puts a damper on buying toys because the financially cheap part of my brain goes "why buy her/sil this present when they will just toss it anyways?"

special note: I am a major packrat, so that may be why it bugs me too.

sucrets4 · March 2010

There is no "I'd go, but just for the cake" option.

sucrets4 · March 2010

My bff got a PETTING ZOO at her house for her daughter's 1st birthday. That she won't remember. And it cost a shitton of money that they didn't really have lying around.

katiewhompus · March 2010

See, you're parties sound like fun. M's would consist of 30 adults sitting in a small townhouse watching tv...and not that there's anything wrong with it, but a good 50% wouldn't speak English so I wouldn't be able to make new friends either

[Deleted User] · March 2010

it was your birthday first, katie. therefore, yours trumps.

katiewhompus · March 2010

Technically yesterday was her birthday, you only get one day right?

amalama · March 2010

Our daughter's first two birthday parties were huge. Both times we started out with immediate family and friends with kids, then a couple of aunts want to come, so we invite all of them, and it just gets gigantic. But both were barbecues, with washers and croquet and stuff for the adults to. Basically just an excuse for a family get together with cake.

There is no way in hell I would invite all those people to Chuck E Cheese or one of those bounce house places. I only set foot in those places on the weekends when I have to for other people's kids birthdays, they are miserable.

And her birthday is coming up in a couple of months, and we have again decided to only do immediate family and a few friend's with kids. We'll see how that goes over this year.

ootmother2 · March 2010

I vote no large birthday parties after the first

kimheartsscott · March 2010

I voted answer 3, because I would go if it was family. If it was a friend who wasn't my MOH, I wouldn't go unless I had kids that could play with the other kids.

LarissaAnn · March 2010

I said "fun stuff," but I also meant "lucrative." I've face painted at more large 1st & 2nd birthday parties than I can remember. It's a good portion of my income.

BioGirl21 · March 2010

I have pictures from all of my birthday parties when I was younger(2, 3, 4,5...) but it was only my family, grandparents and my best friend who lived next door at most of them. If someone I knew was having a party for their 2 year old, I'd only go if I'd know people there(or for the cake...). The only reason to have a party for a young child is for the adult to get together, it's not like a 2 year old would remember.

kbmeow · March 2010

Now I love kids birthday party's, The cake, the ice cream etc.. I am going to a birthday party for a 3 year old next week. But Aside from the immediately family she invites a few close friends. Now I am not sure of inviting 30 adult friends to a kids birthday that seems extreme.

LarissaAnn · March 2010

Sometimes it's a cultural thing. I've been a guest or face painter at some pretty huge and wild first birthdays.

An Italian friend of mine rented a hall for her twins' first birthday, and it was HUGE. Actually, as they got older the parties got smaller.

And I face painted at a first birthday where the family was from somewhere in South America (I regret that I can't remember which country), and not only did they have me, but also a magician and a team of Latina glitz-and-glam-adorned dancers too! And they also rented a hall.

golden1215 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_birthdays-babys?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d4816234-b17c-4fb3-8c8b-d23a683573b8Post:a4bca6ee-2321-4950-a468-d11c63233ad5">Re: Birthdays for babys</a>:
[QUOTE]I think it's odd. You invite the adults for the 1 year party, but that's only because that party is just an excuse for the parents to celebrate keeping the baby alive for a year. After that, birthday parties are for kids and the grownups attached to them.
Posted by ThePinkSuperhero[/QUOTE]

This. We invited everyone and their brother to my daughters 1st bday but its going to be family only for her 2nd. I do think we will have another big party when she turns 3 but only because it's her golden bday.

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