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SmallenForever · October 2012

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Girlie1030 · October 2012

How old is this girl? She's acting extremely childish.

Girlie1030 · October 2012

Good grief.

I don't think there's much you can do if she insists she wants to be in the wedding. Maybe she's just looking to get attention with her comments and complaining so I'd try to ignore her as best you can.

Maggie0829 · October 2012

Just ignore her. She is acting like a childish brat. There is nothing you can do or should you continue to play into her hands. She seems like she just wants attention and that is exactly what you are giving her.

kmmssg · October 2012

Yeah, she is being a brat and she is loving the attention she is getting for it. The best thing you can do is nothing...

If she is planning on purposely gaining weight then let it go and go about your business. You know her plan, your FI knows her plan, and she is going to look pretty dumb for pulling this stunt. Does she do a lot of attention seeking stunts like this on a regular basis?

You don't need even sides for the wedding, so let this go and if she is there, great. If she gains a boatload of weight so she can't wear the dress, well you are prepared for that. The best think you can do is make sure she gets no payoff for this little stunt like a lot of attention.

Just wondering, does FMIL know she has said this? Don't go telling her, just wondering if she knows.

Amanda051588 · October 2012

Do you really want her to be in your wedding or do you simply feel obligated? If it were me, and I didn't ask her in the first place to be a bridesmaid, I would take the honest approach and tell her that she either can't be a bridesmaid in your wedding at all or she can't be a bridesmaid if she continues to act out the way she is. I would also approach her honestly and tell her directly how her comments are making you feel. You shouldn't be giving her the option to have so much control over her decision to be a bridesmaid when you're the one paying for everything for her. It's YOUR wedding. Maybe you should give her a deadline to let you know for certain if she's in or if she's out so you don't waste your time or your money on her. However, if she is adamant that she wants to be in your wedding and still complains, then I would first confront her about how she's making you feel and then from there on out let her complaints go in one ear and out the other. The attire and duties are the price she's paying for being a bridesmaid!

shine882007 · October 2012

Quit giving her attention about it, it's what she wants. Ignore it. If she shows up, she shows up. If she doesn't, that is on her and not you or your FI.

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