No Kids on invitations?

Re: No Kids on invitations?

• schmood member

  

  January 2012

  Our RSVP cards said:
  
  We have reserved _____ seats in your honor
  
  We went and filled in the # on each card before mailing it so it was clear how many people were invited/how many seats were allowed. 

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• trixie549

  

  January 2012

  It's considered poor etiquette to write "no kids" or "adults only" on your invitation. The best way of communicating this is to address the envelopes only to those individuals you wish to invite:
  
  Mr. and Mrs. John Doe
  
  vs.
  
  Mr. and Mrs. John Doe
  Sally, Billy and Susie
  
  If someone asks about it, just say that you're unable to accomodate kids at your wedding (or whatever reason you have for not including them).

  

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• tpender13 member

  

  January 2012

  Ditto PPs -- please don't make mention on the invitation of who isn't invited. Just address it to who is, like "Jane and John Doe". Personalized RSVP cards can be helpful too, especially if you have a meal choice. Ours were set up like this...
  
  Jane Doe  chicken__ beef__ declines__
  John Doe  chicken__ beef__ declines__
  
  You may have to call a couple people who will try to write their children in and say something along the lines of "Jane, I'm really sorry, but the invitation was only for you and John. I hope you're still able to make it to the wedding!"

  

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• wittyschaffy member

  

  January 2012

  We had to do "X seats have been reserved in your honor" after my sister had a dozen or so uninvited children show up to her wedding 5 months before mine despite properly addressing the invitations to the parents only.  We went a step further and added a line "Please let us know if you need assistance arranging for childcare" so it was plain as day that kiddos weren't included.  Nobody took us up on it and we only had 2 non invited children show up (we would have provided a sitter on site if needed) who sat on their parents' laps and ate off their plates.  

  
  

  I hated to be passive agressive about it but it caused drama for my sister so we wanted to do our best to head it off early.  Nobody questioned us about it so if they were mad about it, they were mad in private.

   

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• leggwilliams

  

  January 2012

  We invited some kids but made a rule of no second cousins (so all of DH's cousin's kids were not invited). We printed on each RSVP card each person that was invited and gave the meal choices to select next to each name to try and make it as clear as possible who was invited (pics in bio under DIY). It worked really well with one or two exceptions of people that (quite rudely, I might add) wrote in their kid underneath their name/s. In this situation I had my mom or my MIL call and explain the situation to the respective family.

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• djlsmccann member

  

  January 2012

  I am planning on doing no kids.  I am not sure how I will be doing the wording on the invites but on my wedding website, under the reception, I have respectfully posted "Only children of the wedding party and immediate family will be attending the reception.  If you need help with accomodations for your children please email me at **."  I do have family traveling from out of state and I want to be able to provide a sitter for them but we just can not afford to have all our cousins children join the party.  So i'm hoping that will be a big hint.  Then I will try to find the right wording for the invites.  I will also be doing my RSVP's online and I have to literally enter each guests name, so there will be no option for them to add. Hopefully that will also help and from speaking to most cousins already, they seem understanding. ;-)

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