anyone who decided not to do the father/daughter mother/son dance?

jujub423 · January 2012

FI thinks it will be awkward but feels it is probably important to his mother. My dad thinks it's really awkward as well (he did dance with my older sister at her wedding). Hell, even I think it will be a little awkward, but I feel like maybe I will regret it if we don't. I can't even find a song for us to dance to that I like enough. However, I am one to stick to tradition. I'm worried our guests will wonder why we aren't doing the dances, because neither of us has been to a wedding where they didn't. Ugh.

If you didn't do the father daughter mother/son dance, do you mind telling me why, and did you regret it?

kimiandgary · January 2012

I am definitely doing a f/d dance but my FI wants to skip it on his end. This came up when we were visiting my parents. My oldest brother is a half-brother and genuinely conisders himself having 2 moms (the one who birthed him and (my mom) the one who raised him). For that reason they all opted to skip a m/s dance and my brother and my mom have regretted it ever since. If nothing else, its sets aside time to you to have a few moments to chat and thank them for the big day. Just my two cents..

AurorasEnvy · January 2012

Maybe you could have the father/daughter and the mother/son at the same time to lessen the spotlight?

Either way, I'd confirm with dad and FMIL first. There was a post a couple of months ago on the Wedding Recap board where they did the father/daughter dance and then skipped the mother/son dance. The bride was under the assumption that the mother knew they were skipping it, but apparently that wasn't the case and she was REALLY upset.

As far the regret goes...I highly doubt that you would regret doing it, but you might regret not doing it. It's only 2 minutes or so, so it might be worth it to just suck it up & go for it - you might even enjoy it!

ginadog · January 2012

I don't think we'll do any of these dances either. Mainly because dancing will not be a main part of the reception (it'll happen if it happens). And my dad may not be on this Earth by the time my wedding rolls around sadly. I am avoiding any and all parent associated activiites.

hansa11 · January 2012

We didn't do any special dances and definitely didn't regret it because my husband and I don't like to dance. (And I know my dad would have found it awkward.) We simply didn't do anything that we didn't feel comfortable doing, even if it was tradition. I got a few comments from friends who couldn't understand how we could feel embarrassed about having a room full of people watch us dance, but I opened myself up to that by telling people ahead of time that we weren't having any special dances. No one said anything at the wedding though.

DeannaCW · January 2012

We're considering whether or not to do them. If we do, they'll be at the same time (cause who's gonna want to watch three special dances in a row?? Besides, lessens the spotlight). I'm not close with my dad so wouldn't mind missing, but only won't if there's no mother-son dance. And FMIL has had foot problems since she stepped on a sea urchin or something on her honeymoon years ago, so she may not even want to for fear of the pain.

jujub423 · January 2012

Now that I think about it, FMIL shattered her ankle 5 years ago and has never been the same--she's super cautious walking/on stairs, maybe she won't even want to do a spotlight dance, and we'll just keep it casual. I'm glad to hear other people haven't done it too. I've never been to a wedding where it wasn't done, so was kind of worried.

anyone who decided not to do the father/daughter mother/son dance?

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