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My sister is trying to destroy my wedding

leesaborsosleesaborsos
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I had a major problem with my sister this week. For whatever reason she started nasty rumors about me and my Fiance that caused a series of events resulting in my parents and her threatening not to come to the wedding.  I will spare you the details but  I truly feel her anger is directed at me out of jealousy since her boyfriend broke up with her a few months ago and now she has to watch me marry the man I love. I have tried to be gentle about the issue since I knew it hurt her but I can't hide my wedding from her just to spare her feelings. (i.e. she called me all upset the day she got the invite claiming that the invite was rubbing it in her face).

Things have calmed down now since my parents have figured out her motive and that her rumors about us were just that...RUMORS!!! They have talked to her and she tells them she wants to come to the wedding. We are a Christian couple and believe in forgiveness but I have yet to receive a call from my sister apologizing for her actions. Our wedding is two days away and of course I want her there but I am scared to death she is going to do something hurtful at the wedding.

Any Suggestions??????
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  • MerinMerin member
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    edited December 2011
    As long as you don't think it would stress you out too terribly much to speak with her, I would call her. 

    She sounds like she's being exceptionally jealous and dramatic, but treat her with kindness anyhow.  Let her know that you understand that she may be hurting, but her recent words and actions have been really hurtful.  Tell her then, that despite all of that, you do want her there, as she is your sister and is important to you. 

    Then drink a glass of wine, curl up on the couch with your soon to be hubby (!!!) and rest easy knowing that you have done what you can.  She will be the one that has to make the decision. 


    Oh, but also assign a friend, family member or bridesmaid to keep an eye on her at the wedding if she does decide to come.  If she starts acting ridiculous, let that person deal with her.  You do NOT need that extra stress on your big day!!
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  • nyreknyrek member
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    edited December 2011
    One doesn't have to ask for your forgiveness in order to get it.  You can choose to forgive her regardless and move on with your life.  Let your sister know, when you do speak to her, that it was unacceptable behavior and not to do it again.  Let her know if she needs help through a hard time, you will be there to help her.

    As long as your family hasn't bought into her antics you should be ok to move on with your plans and if she comes, great...if she doesn't, that's something she has to live with.  You're still going to marry your man and have a wonderful day!

    Good luck!
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  • rak123rak123 member
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    edited December 2011

    Always remember that if your sister does something stupid, it will be a reflection of HER and not YOU.

    Good luck and have a wonderful wedding day!

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  • bsharp3bsharp3
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    edited December 2011

    Good Luck girl. Dont let her rain on this parade. Jealousy is tough. But this is your time, money and life. And if you choose to ignore her... its her loss. NOT YOURS. i know its your sister. But behavior like that is just WRONG.

    Enjoy yourself and bask in the night. Its yours!

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  • leesaborsosleesaborsos
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you everyone for the words of support. I will not let anyone ruin this day!!!! This is my last post before we are married and I am soooooo excited...we leave for Put -in-bay in 7 hours and I can't even sleep! I will post pics once we return!!! Happy planning everyone!
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  • rak123rak123 member
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    edited December 2011
    Have a great wedding, Leesa! Can't wait to see pics!
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