To Dermablend or not to Dermablend

jmoffatt3703 · November 2012

Crisis has been averted, but please feel free to read all the negativity and anger all theses women have!

madeline&matt · November 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_suggestions-needed-asap-bridesmaid-decided-to?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:2ced7d7c-b241-4c9a-8172-33093e139007Post:c1ffeebc-0890-47de-87d8-9da30ca05e62">Suggestions Needed ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Bridesmaid decided to.......</a>:
[QUOTE]My wedding is in 6 months. We are having a shabby chic themed wedding and all the girls are going to be wearing spring/tea dresses. My one bridesmaid decided to go and get a tattoo, not just any tattoo.... this.....a NAKED FAIRY!!! She <strong>didn't consult with me first</strong>. It was to cover another tattoo (that was fading and easier to cover). Everytime I see this, my blood boils. I don't know what to do!! It's on her right arm too!!! My other bridesmaid has a tattoo on her arm as well, it is on the left arm and is very tasteful. I don't mind her tattoo, but she does have to take out her facial piercings. I don't want to kick her out of my party, but if this can't be covered, I may not have a choice. Another bridesmaid tells me I should just leave it and embrace it and let her express herself since everyone will look the same. I get ganged up on over this! My fiance and my parents both think she should not be apart of my bridal party. Any suggestions or advice will help!
Posted by jmoffatt3703[/QUOTE]

<div>I don't think you're going to like the responses you get. </div><div>
</div><div>Why did you ask this woman to be in your bridal party? Because you love her and she is a part of you/your fiance's life and you cannot imagine getting married without her by your side? Based on your post I would think that you asked her to be in your bridal party because you needed a warm body.</div><div>
</div><div>A bridesmaid is not your employee and you are not the boss of her life. You cannot and should not dictate what they do to their bodies, <em><strong>including </strong></em>taking out their facial piercings.</div><div>
</div><div>Go right ahead and kick this girl out of your bridal party. Kick the other one with a tattoo out, too. Also, expect that they will no longer be your friends. You also might want to plan on other people not being your friend if they hear what happened. I know I wouldn't.</div>

misssunshine17 · November 2012

Are you seriously going kick out someone you're supposed to love because of a tattoo?? This is so petty. Her tat is part of her. And you are wildly out of line to think that she should have consulted you. You need to get a grip.

Stina51286 · November 2012

WOW I would hate to be our friend.

Maggie0829 · November 2012

How dare she not consult with you first about doing something to her own body!! Doesn't she realize that since she agreed to be in your wedding that you now OWN her and have ultimate say in what she can and cannot do until your wedding is over with. God, the nerve of her! I say you should kick her out of your wedding, befriend her on facebook, and then publicly humiliate her for doing such a thing!

OP, please read the above because this is what you sound like. This person is suppose to be one of your nearest and dearest friends. What makes you think that you can treat her like crap just because you are getting married? If you weren't getting married what would your feelings be on her new tattoo? Would you even care? You need to love and respect your friend and her choices. This tatto will not ruin your wedding, in fact, many people may not even notice it, but if you keep on the track that you are thinking the tattoo will ruin your friendship because you are putting your wedding above your friends feelings and her ultimate right to do whatever the hell she wants to with her own body.

bunni727 · November 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_suggestions-needed-asap-bridesmaid-decided-to?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:2ced7d7c-b241-4c9a-8172-33093e139007Post:c1ffeebc-0890-47de-87d8-9da30ca05e62">Suggestions Needed ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Bridesmaid decided to.......</a>:
[QUOTE]My wedding is in 6 months. We are having a shabby chic themed wedding and all the girls are going to be wearing spring/tea dresses. My one bridesmaid decided to go and get a tattoo, not just any tattoo.... this.....a NAKED FAIRY!!! She didn't consult with me first. It was to cover another tattoo (that was fading and easier to cover). Everytime I see this, my blood boils. I don't know what to do!! It's on her right arm too!!! My other bridesmaid has a tattoo on her arm as well, it is on the left arm and is very tasteful.<strong> I don't mind her tattoo, but she does have to take out her facial piercings.</strong> I don't want to kick her out of my party, but if this can't be covered, I may not have a choice. Another bridesmaid tells me I should just leave it and embrace it and let her express herself since everyone will look the same. I get ganged up on over this! My fiance and my parents both think she should not be apart of my bridal party. Any suggestions or advice will help!
Posted by jmoffatt3703[/QUOTE]

Why? Is there a rule against them at your venue?

If your church wants the piercings out, let her know. If they insist on covering the tattoos, cardigans for all the girls would be cute with your theme.

You asked them because they are your closest friends. Not, one would hope, because they were tattoo-and-piercing-free and fit into your theme.

Put simply, you are getting ganged up on because it is downright mean to stop wanting your friend next to you because she got a tattoo that you didn't approve. You are being mean, people are trying to discourage that. Her tattoo makes your 'blood boil.' Your attitude towards your friends probably does the same to most people.

Maggie0829 · November 2012

Please for the love of God and for the benefit of this girl, end your friendship with her. You will be doing her a favor to no longer have to deal with such a snotty, judegy, bridezilla brat like you. Apparently your PPD and your PPD pictures are far more important to you and she should know that.

I don't give two hoots when she got her tattoo because it doesn't matter. If she wanted to dye her skin green and start acting like a frog she has every right to do that! She is her own person and your wedding does not mean that everyone involved has to consult with you before they make a personal decision.

And the whole "it is MY day" crap needs to stop. Once you start including others in on your wedding day it is no longer just about you.

bunni727 · November 2012

Anyone else thinking MUD? she pulled the trashy card, the my day card, and the DD in one fail swoop. There is a post just a few down with a ton of fiery responses, and these are her only posts.

Maybe I'm just hopeful.

Maggie0829 · November 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_suggestions-needed-asap-bridesmaid-decided-to?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:2ced7d7c-b241-4c9a-8172-33093e139007Post:3a2f2451-9189-4f59-a9b0-61c565b56359">Re: Suggestions Needed ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Bridesmaid decided to.......</a>:
[QUOTE]Nice DD OP. <strong>Glad I quoted your ridiculousness before you got to it.
</strong>Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]

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And she was quick too! Hopefully she reread what she posted and realized what a judgey and mean person she was being.

kmmssg · November 2012

I'm a MOB who pretty much dislikes tattoos. I'm a MOB who would be devastated if any of my 4 girls treated their friends as you are treating yours. DH's family is more old-school. They will have to deal with any tattoos at my girls weddings or deal with me. ALL of my girls have tattoos and to the best of my knowledge, so do most of their friends.

Lose the MY day thing. It makes you sound quite ugly at heart.

There is one and ONLY one reason I would give this any thought and it is this: Is the fairy naked with private parts showing? If it shows genitalia then cardigans need to be added to the dresses. There is no excuse for genitalia showing.

I'm guessing this might be more like the tattoo one of my DD's lifelong BFF's has. Fairy is sitting on the ground, legs curled up to one side so nothing shows and long hair comes down covering the nipples. Am I in the ball park here? This tattoo is on BFF's neck and she wears super short hair. When DD gets married she wants a longtime family friend to do the ceremony. He is a Baptist minister. We will have to show it to him because chances are he won't allow it at the altar of his church. If we are at a different venue it won't be his call, but his altar, his call.

Deleting your original post makes you look incredibly immature. If there is no genitalia showing on the tat (and I'm thinking there isn't) then you need to drop this and embrace your friend. If you don't want to see it in "YOUR" pictures then add cardigans to the dresses for the ceremony and pictures. Problem solved.

You need to take a step back and regroup here. You are seeing her as a prop for your picks, not as your friend.

Maggie0829 · November 2012

It is called photoshop and I am pretty sure a professional photographer is skilled enough to remove a tattoo from your pictures since the pictures seem to be your only concern.

And like Liatris said, the only thing that really should matter when looking at wedding photographs is seeing the happy smiling and supportive faces around you and your H. If all you focus on is a dumb tattoo that in pictures will most likely look very small because the photographer isn't going to be focusing on your friends arm but her face instead then your prioritize are completely out of whack.

Viczaesar · November 2012

Bridezilla and shallow friend.

QueerFemme · November 2012

OP. you are a huge assshole

Peledreamsofrain · November 2012

I wonder if OP has a re-peircing fund saved up for her bridal party. Facial peircings close fast, and by the end of the night at least one of the girls will end up needing to have their work re-done. Which is expensive, painful, and carries the inherant risk of infection and complication.

Way to go OP, their health is TOTALLY worth it for your *gasp* magical pictures.

Something tells me OP is one of those girls that make me uncomfortable and irritated just standing in line next to while she yaks loudly on her cellphone about the most incredibly shallow topics she can find at the grocery store. Perhaps about her bridesmaids and naked tattoos.

jmoffatt3703 · November 2012

Wow. Just wow. All I can say is a lot of you ladies have to much time on your hands and are way to judgmental. It makes me wonder how judgmental you are towards others in your life. I am almost 100% sure that each and every one of your brides had a a hiccup (whether it was minor or major) during your wedding that someone else had caused, and you were probably not a nice person about it either. The only difference here is I put my hiccup on a forum., that's it. I didn't asked to be attacked or called names or none of the malicious things you people are saying. After all, it is MY wedding day (and yes the caps are necessary because it is my day), and if I don't want one of many tattoos in my pictures, that is my decision.

Saying that, I had a wonderful bridal dinner over the weekend and no one even discussed the tattoo. Not once. I have already spoken with her and she has agreed to get dermablend and that's that. She knows it bothers me and she didn't mean for it to upset me. The way she did it was shocking to me and she apologized for it. She even joked with me that when she goes to get it finished, she is going to put huge nipples on the fairy, ( i told her to put it on the left side so when she is at the alter no one would see it)

Ta-ta for now ladies, please go spread your hate on all the other posts you guys do.

kmmssg · November 2012

You just made yourself look completely ridiculous by changing the title of YOUR thread and deleting your post. This is why people quote posts - especially those that look like a bridezilla trainwreck.

jmoffatt3703 · November 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_suggestions-needed-asap-bridesmaid-decided-to?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:2ced7d7c-b241-4c9a-8172-33093e139007Post:1b17724d-b4f5-4e24-8857-a6c691023715">Re: To Dermablend or not to Dermablend</a>:
[QUOTE]You just made yourself look completely ridiculous by changing the title of YOUR thread and deleting your post. This is why people quote posts - especially those that look like a bridezilla trainwreck.
Posted by kmmssg[/QUOTE]

Lol. K.
And it is MY thread, so I can change it all I want and delete whatever I want.

P.S. I am far from a "bridezilla", just don't want this tattoo in my wedding pictures, but I am a trainwreck. Planning a wedding (without any help) and working a full time job along with a parttime job is stressful. Plus all of the other everyday tasks life has, but I'm sure you know all about that.

mandi195 · November 2012

what a brat... I can't stop laughing at this MY day, MY pictures, MY thread, Mine mine mine mine me me me me .... spoiled little princess? yeah, I thought so...

Maggie0829 · November 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_suggestions-needed-asap-bridesmaid-decided-to?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:2ced7d7c-b241-4c9a-8172-33093e139007Post:2f656d2a-2f92-4d10-87c3-2780009aa909">Re: To Dermablend or not to Dermablend</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: To Dermablend or not to Dermablend : Lol. K. And it is MY thread, so I can change it all I want and delete whatever I want. P.S. I am far from a "bridezilla", just don't want this tattoo in my wedding pictures, but I am a trainwreck. Planning a wedding (without any help) and working a full time job along with a parttime job is stressful. Plus all of the other everyday tasks life has, but I'm sure you know all about that.
Posted by jmoffatt3703[/QUOTE]

This and other post just made you look even worse and even more immature then your first rant.

And the whole "planning a wedding (without any help) and working a full time and part time job is stressful"...well welcome to the club. You do realize that you are talking to current and past brides that are all in the same boat. But just because you are stressed does not give you the right to be mean to your friends.

Also STOP FLUCKING SAYING "MY" DAY!!!! Remember that you aren't marrying yourself with yourself as your witness and officiant. The wedding day also belongs to your groom. Brides tend to forget that the wedding day is also a very special and important day for the man they are marrying. It is also an extremely important day for your family and friends who have been there for you and have supported you your whole life. So quick acting like a self absorbed brat!

SKPM · November 2012

In Response to Re:To Dermablend or not to Dermablend:[QUOTE]what a brat... I can't stop laughing at this MY day, MY pictures, MY thread, Mine mine mine mine me me me me .... spoiled little princess? yeah, I thought so... Posted by mandi195[/QUOTE]
Yep, this was what I thought too. If I were her BM, getting kicked out would be a blessing.

dtbluv · November 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_suggestions-needed-asap-bridesmaid-decided-to?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:2ced7d7c-b241-4c9a-8172-33093e139007Post:939348a6-cb7c-4bae-8f57-67025a12db8e">Re: Suggestions Needed ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Bridesmaid decided to.......</a>:
[QUOTE]Anyone else thinking <strong>MUD</strong>? she pulled the trashy card, the my day card, and the DD in one fail swoop. There is a post just a few down with a ton of fiery responses, and these are her only posts. Maybe I'm just hopeful.
Posted by bunni727[/QUOTE]

What is an MUD?

julespinkribbon · December 2012

Wow! Im a bride and I have a tattoo and Im worried trying to find a way to cover it up for my wedding bc im nervous people won't like it even though its small and beautifully scripted italian for my sister on the inside of my arm. I would never ever ever ask anyone to cover up anything on there body because it is part of who they are. You choose your bridal party because you love them are you couldnt imagine your day without them. I am just stressing how to cover up my own because I dont want it showing in my own gown. Thats my personal decision.

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