Initially we had planned to have our wedding/reception at my FI's Godmothers restaurant. Okay fine, saves on our budget etc.
Then, FMIL decides that we need to have it at an actual place and do it up nicely, okay fair I do like that idea and Godmother will still cater for us.
FMIL decides that for the wedding overall we'll pay X amount, and above and beyond that (his parents) will take care of it (assuming it's reasonable, e.g. not trying to rent out the penthouse or anything)
Anyway, she picked an extravagent place to go look at that can hold both a reception and ceremony perfectly, we went, it was absolutely fantastic so we went ahead and booked it, that was about half of our X amount.
The problem begins, that our "styles" tend to be different, and we have different ideas about what looks good. e.g. I mentioned on two different occasions that I didn't want my bridesmaids to wear all the same style dress and they can get one that flatters their body (that is our color), and today I mentioned that I didn't necessarily want all my centerpieces to be identical, but to coordinate and on both occasions she thinks everything should be the same/pefect/uniform/symetrical - that is 100% the opposite of my personality.
Now, i'm not trying to make it crazy or stupid, but I don't think my "style" is that strange, I see it in theknot all the time - THAT IS WHERE I GOT THE IDEA!
My FI doesn't necessarily have an opinion about anything so his mom and I are planning it together, but when it comes to these two things both times he's told me he thinks his moms idea is better.
Now my concern is that i'm very laid back, i'm not confrontational at all and I understand her son is getting married too, but at what point can I say no, I want to do my idea, without getting run over the whole time, especially since our money situation is a little kooky. She's a little, headstrong? I'm not sure that's the appropriate way to describe her, but I don't want to end up on the naughty list for voicing my opinion about my wedding.
My biggest fear is that i'm just going to cruise through this, and then in 5 years look back coulda-woulda-shoulda about my ideas.