I don't understand why people seem to feel the need to pass judgement on others based on some pre conceived notion of how they think things should be. This, I have found to be especially true, when it comes to weddings( 1st or 2nd) My MOH who is my sister ,seemed to feel that people may be"upset" to get an invitation to a shower for me because I am getting married for the 2nd time. She felt that it was more appropriate to call it a wedding celebration. My BMs and step mother (my mom is deceased)are throwing the shower . I am having a destination wedding and feel that if people get an invitation for a wedding celebration they will think it is the "at home" reception. I guess I am just frustrated!! I understand that a shower is not required for a 2nd wedding and am actually really honored that my BM are having one for me. I just wish that my sister was less concerned about what others thought. . We already have 40 people (maybe more)who are coming to our destination wedding in Jamaica and anyone who is close enough to FI and I to be invited is not going to feel "put off" about a shower" I know I can't change how she feels or who she is, just feeling frustrated. I love my sister and I know this is just how she is. It is just also so frustrating that there are so many "rules" that don't take into account real life.
There are so many different family dynamics out there than before and just because it's different, doesn't make it wrong. If two people are lucky enough to find a love strong enough to want to get married, that is all that should matter!!!!!
Thank you for letting me vent