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My sister is my MOH. She is married, but specifically asked to be referred to as "maid" in the program. I agree with her that matron of honor can make a woman sound a bit older than she may be. If I'm granting her specific request, is this still a major faux pas? I don't really think it would be - I don't think I've ever noticed while scanning through a program. 
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    PeledreamsofrainPeledreamsofrain member
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    Eh, if it makes her happy, do it. Any person who would be offended by, or sideeye such a thing would be such an annoying bunch of sour grapes that it'd be fun to rattle their chain.
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    I'll be doing the same thing. My MOH will be 24 at the time and is hardly "matronly." The word just weirds us both out because it makes up feel old :) I don't think it's a big deal at all. 
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    vanityinkvanityink member
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    I feel like, as long as her husband doesn't care, no reason for you to (basically it's calling herself unmarried, so it would just be if the guy has an issue, which I doubt he would)
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_maid-vs-matron?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:d87bf546-242c-4340-98d4-144ec7b23edbPost:6fe6cb55-39a0-49ed-9f5e-bac7035731f4">Re: maid vs matron</a>:
    [QUOTE]I feel like, as long as her husband doesn't care, no reason for you to (basically it's calling herself unmarried, so it would just be if the guy has an issue, which I doubt he would)
    Posted by jessicadall[/QUOTE]

    Why should her husband's opinion on this matter?

    OP - if she wants to be called "Maid of Honor" that's fine.  I have never seen married BMs called "Bridesmatrons" so it really doesn't matter.
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    I had the exact same situation with my MOH. She was listed as Maid in the program, though married, and all was fine.


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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_maid-vs-matron?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:d87bf546-242c-4340-98d4-144ec7b23edbPost:758c1179-408e-43f9-817a-6cde6ee4832a">maid vs matron</a>:
    [QUOTE]My sister is my MOH. She is married, but specifically asked to be referred to as "maid" in the program. I agree with her that matron of honor can make a woman sound a bit older than she may be. If I'm granting her specific request, is this still a major faux pas? I don't really think it would be - I don't think I've ever noticed while scanning through a program. 
    Posted by bridalmarch[/QUOTE]

    <div>If that's what she wants, no one else will mind.</div>
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    lauralaurlauralaur member
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    As a guest if I knew your MOH I may notice but I can't imagine that I'd care. I'm only 25 and if I was asked to be a MOH I might make the same request.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_maid-vs-matron?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:d87bf546-242c-4340-98d4-144ec7b23edbPost:ee3dfb85-50fd-44b1-ad2c-3cddbede98c6">Re: maid vs matron</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't understand this at all.  Matron means married.  It does not, and has never meant old.
    Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

    I am with you.  I have observed, on these boards, that common usage of terms like matron ("married") and Mrs. ("wife of") has morphed their meanings over time.  I don't understand it either, but it is what it is.
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    Go ahead with using "maid."  My divorced cousin asked if she'd be "maid" or "matron" in the program and I said that she can be whatever she wants.  We decided that she'll be "maid" because I'm having two MOHs and the other one is married.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_maid-vs-matron?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:d87bf546-242c-4340-98d4-144ec7b23edbPost:ee3dfb85-50fd-44b1-ad2c-3cddbede98c6">Re: maid vs matron</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't understand this at all.  Matron means married.  It does not, and has never meant old.
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    Me neither but it's just a title.  My SIL who is younger than me was my Matron of Honor.
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    What comes to mind when you hear the word "matronly?" To me, it's a heavy-set, middle-aged woman in frumpy clothing. You'd better believe I asked my sister to refer to me as her "maid of honour" rather than matron of honour. (She got married 50 days after I did).
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_maid-vs-matron?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:d87bf546-242c-4340-98d4-144ec7b23edbPost:ee3dfb85-50fd-44b1-ad2c-3cddbede98c6">Re: maid vs matron</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't understand this at all.  Matron means married.  It does not, and has never meant old.
    Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

    I agree. I truly wouldn't think twice about being referred to as 'Matron of Honor' in a wedding now that I am married (which will happen when my sisters get married I assume).
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    bridalmarchbridalmarch member
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    I tend to think of someone older...maybe it's ten seasons of obsessive Project Runway watching. When Michael Kors calls a designer's clothes "matronly" that's like the kiss of death. 
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