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Cash gift thank you question

thatguyhasmynamethatguyhasmyname member
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We received a very generous check from a family member.
Hubby and I were blown away and shocked by this.
It is ok to say something along the lines of "we appreciate your generous gift and would like to thank you by taking you out to dinner sometime"
OR
Should it be thank you for the generousity hope we can get dinner sometime?

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Re: Cash gift thank you question

  • jaso2012jaso2012
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    Personally, I think I might be a little put off if someone asked to take me out to dinner to thank me for a generous gift. It seems almost like you want to give back to the gifter, so to speak, but that seems kind of strange to me. Obviously, they gave you a generous gift because they wanted to! But I do think it would be nice to hint that you would like to make plans with them in the future - just not that you want to treat them because they gave you a good gift.
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  • GoodLuckBear14GoodLuckBear14 member
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    Just thank them.  I'd also be a little annoyed if someone offered to take me to dinner with money I just gave them as a gift.
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  • thatguyhasmynamethatguyhasmyname member
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    Thank you both very much!
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  • SatchkatSatchkat member
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    Agree with both PPs.
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  • Avion22Avion22 member
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    As a general rule, you don't say "thank-you" with another gift.  Then they will feel they have to thank YOU for taking them out to dinner, and it becomes a viscious cycle.

    A simple thank you note with a promise to get together soon (family reunion, your annyal fourth-of-july picnic, or whatever) should be fine.
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  • trixie549trixie549
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    Ditto PPs. I would also maybe mention how you plan to use the money if you've thought that out and it seems appropriate (i.e. down payment on a house).
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  • JNV825JNV825
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    My parents were on the opposite end of this situation. They have a very close friend couple who's daughter was getting married and they gave her a VERY generous check as a present. The wedding was a saturday and on Monday an edible arrangement arrived at my parents house with a thank you note and about a month later they also recieved a normal thank you note in the mail. The edible arrangement went over great but my parents were really touched that the bride and groom had made the effort to show how much they appreciated the generosity.
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  • mbrischouxmbrischoux member
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    Just thank them for their generosity.  I doubt they expected to get dinner out of the deal.

    Just my personal thing, but I don't like the idea of putting in writing what the intentions are with any cash gifts.  I know I'd feel funny if I gave a cash gift or a check and the card read, "we look forward to using it to purchase a new bedroom set" or something like that.  I'd just assume they were using it for some sort of marital purchase anyway without them having to tell me, but I'm a weirdo that way:-P
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