Who's in charge of the bridal shower?

ashwayne03 · February 2012

Hello, I was wondering who is in charge of throwing a bridal shower for me? How do I go about asking without sounding rude?

Hilraythebride · February 2012

No one is in charge of it unless they volunteer. DO NOT ask anyone to throw you a bridal shower. There is no way to do so without sounding rude and gift grabby. If someone wants to throw you a shower they will say so.

MyNameIsNot · February 2012

No one is in charge of it. A shower is a gift to you. If someone wants to throw one, they will offer. Asking for one would be really rude.

Squishy'sGal · February 2012

Typically, the bridal party throws the shower for the bride. Sometimes the mother or sisters of the bride throw the party. And sometimes they do it together. However, you can't ask for a shower. I'm sure you'll get one but you can't ask.

rlavach · February 2012

Like the PP mentioned, you can't really ask without sounding rude. I would just go ahead and register. That's what I did. Even if you don't get a shower, it will help for wedding gifts. Then, casually mention it to your BP and mom. Like, 'omg, I was so excited to go to BBB to register!' If someone is planning to do it, they'll take the hint that it's OK with you and ask you for a guest list. If nobody asks, then you're not getting one.

TiffannieF · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_whos-in-charge-of-the-bridal-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:2452d12c-81d6-46fc-ba93-512e287db54dPost:2f5b1587-2110-45f6-a9d8-c5db8656facd">Re: Who's in charge of the bridal shower?</a>:
[QUOTE]No one is in charge of it. A shower is a gift to you. If someone wants to throw one, they will offer. Asking for one would be really rude.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

This. Same thing for the b-party.

Squishy'sGal · February 2012

Don't forget, showers are supposed to be a surprise. So you may very well be getting a shower but nobody will bring it up. It's only a recent thing that the bride knows if and/or when they will have one.

TiffannieF · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_whos-in-charge-of-the-bridal-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:2452d12c-81d6-46fc-ba93-512e287db54dPost:e0b52934-c581-4b67-9bad-fbf0c8ad4a3a">Re: Who's in charge of the bridal shower?</a>:
[QUOTE]Don't forget, <strong>showers are supposed to be a surprise</strong>. So you may very well be getting a shower but nobody will bring it up. It's only a recent thing that the bride knows if and/or when they will have one.
Posted by Squishy'sGal[/QUOTE]

I'm not sure about this...I mean they <em>can</em> be a surprise but that is not common at all in my circle...I never heard of 'surprise' showers until TK.

rlavach · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_whos-in-charge-of-the-bridal-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:2452d12c-81d6-46fc-ba93-512e287db54dPost:e0b52934-c581-4b67-9bad-fbf0c8ad4a3a">Re: Who's in charge of the bridal shower?</a>:
[QUOTE]Don't forget, showers are supposed to be a surprise. So you may very well be getting a shower but nobody will bring it up. It's only a recent thing that the bride knows if and/or when they will have one.
Posted by Squishy'sGal[/QUOTE]
Around here, showers are almost always surprises. But, they're surprises in the sense that the bride doesn't know when/where. They do have to know that it's happening because the bride needs to supply the guest list and addresses.

ashwayne03 · February 2012

Ok, thank you! I wanted some other opinions because I was told that I need to find out through my mom.

amymaysa · February 2012

In Response to Re: Who's in charge of the bridal shower?:
[QUOTE]Don't forget, showers are supposed to be a surprise. So you may very well be getting a shower but nobody will bring it up. It's only a recent thing that the bride knows if and/or when they will have one.
Posted by Squishy'sGal[/QUOTE]

This is not the case in every area, circle of friends, family, etc...

MyNameIsNot · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_whos-in-charge-of-the-bridal-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:2452d12c-81d6-46fc-ba93-512e287db54dPost:c8fd0dbb-6779-422f-b59e-8f9a73094387">Re: Who's in charge of the bridal shower?</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>Typically, the bridal party throws the shower for the bride.</strong> Sometimes the mother or sisters of the bride throw the party. And sometimes they do it together. However, you can't ask for a shower. I'm sure you'll get one but you can't ask.
Posted by Squishy'sGal[/QUOTE]

<div>In some circles, this is true. In other circles, it is very rare.</div><div>
</div><div>[QUOTE]<span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;background-color:#ffffff;"><strong>Don't forget, showers are supposed to be a surprise</strong>. So you may very well be getting a shower but nobody will bring it up. It's only a recent thing that the bride knows if and/or when they will have one.</span> </div><div>Posted by Squishy'sGal[/QUOTE] </div><div>
</div><div>In some circles, this is true. In other circles, it is very rare. </div>

adktd2boots · February 2012

I've never heard of a surprise shower.

You don't ask for one. If you get one, great. If not, no big deal. remember you are only a bride on your wedding day. Not for all the days from your engagement until then.

skippylouwho · February 2012

Showers aren't a surprise around here and bride's don't ask for showers to be thrown. Usually a close friend, a family member and/or bridesmaids throw shower(s).

Viczaesar · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_whos-in-charge-of-the-bridal-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:2452d12c-81d6-46fc-ba93-512e287db54dPost:e0b52934-c581-4b67-9bad-fbf0c8ad4a3a">Re: Who's in charge of the bridal shower?</a>:
[QUOTE]Don't forget, showers are supposed to be a surprise. So you may very well be getting a shower but nobody will bring it up. It's only a recent thing that the bride knows if and/or when they will have one.
Posted by Squishy'sGal[/QUOTE]
No, they're not <em>supposed </em>to be a surprise, and no, it's not a recent thing.

Jules1986 · February 2012

I've never heard of a surprise shower in my area nor this "the bridal party throws the shower" bit until TK. It's no one's "responsponsibility" but in my area it's often family (mom and aunts).

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