At the beginning of December, my boyfriend of 3 years asked my father for my hand. How do I know this? Because my dad told my mother and she can't keep secrets. She told me the day after he asked. We've talked about marriage for a long time, but he's a bit skiddish about the whole idea because he was married before and it didn't work out. I haven't told him that I know he asked my father, because I don't want to ruin this moment. However, it does sting a bit that he hasn't asked yet (and as you can see, I'm on here, ready to get to planning!). It doesn't help that my mother calls me about every other day to see if he's asked yet, and when I tell her no, she tells me how it's my fault and I'm giving him second thoughts: I'm not nice enough to him, I'm not a good enough housekeeper, I'm too close to a friend of mine and maybe he's worried I'm actually a lesbian... just to sound off a bit of the
nicer things she's had to say. It's gotten to the point that I don't answer when she calls, and when I do tell her off about it, she says she's "just trying to help". UGH!
I want to talk to him about these things because I'm really starting to feel just horrible about it. But at the same time, I don't want to ruin that moment when he does ask. I shouldn't even know that he's talked to my dad but, thanks to my mother, the cat's out of the bag. Every day I kind of feel let down that it's not the day. Yesterday was hard because I thought for sure it would happen that day, but we never wound up going out or doing anything. It just... bugs me.
So I guess I'm asking, how would you deal with this if you were in my shoes? I feel a little dumb for asking, but I just want to talk to someone about it who won't accuse me of being a horrible person!
