I am having the most difficult time choosing the MOH. Its between my cousin and my fiance's cousin. I pretty much think I have it in my head who I want and who would be perfect but I dont want to hurt anyone's feelings... My cousin is who I first thought of before I was even engaged, who I have mentioned to her in the past of picking her, Im having doubts now. I dont want to hurt her feelings because I feel like she is thinking Im going to choose her. but I feel like she has not been there for me, and maybe its too soon I dont know. (Im getting married next oct). My fiance's cousin, who knew I was getting engaged before anyone has been there alot. She took a whole day from school to drive down a half hour away to come dress shopping with me, while my cousin who only lives 10 mins away was half hour late. My fiance's cousin stood there taking pics of me and asking questions while my cousin just sat there. My fiance's cousin, sends me links to websites all the time, txts me all the time seeing if I've done anything knew and always insists that I keep her posted on it all. I dont want to hurt anyone, my fiance's cousin already thinks I'm going to ask my cousin so her feelings wouldnt be hurt, but I feel like she would be honored and appreciated. I feel like she would be my go to girl, my venting girl and ect. So what do I do? I need some imput! If I choose his cousin, what do I say to mine who alreqdy possibly might have it in her head she may be it!