Are you using your gifts from your shower?

id012 · July 2012

I had a semi suprise shower this weekend (whoo!). And now i have all of thses presents sitting on my dinning room table and I have no were to put them unless i unpack them and put them away. I know your not suposed to use them until after the wedding incase the wedding doesnt happen. What are you all doing? Im dying to just set up the house with all this new stuff! And plus I cant keep them just laying around in the dinning room for too long, We have a 1 year old and he is already into all the gifts.I have unpacked a few things and used them, like some of the stuff my mom got me.

Annnd, I got a lot of cash that went along with the gifts, (and also giftcards) Can i not use the cash until after the wedding too?

And, a little side note- what was your favorite shower gift?

Mine was a gift from my brother ex. It was a very very generous visa gift card, with a note in the card that said "use this for a day of beauty before your wedding, theres enough for a massage mani/pedi and hair and makeup the day of. you deserve to feel like a queen"

I thought it was such a sweet gift and really takes some pressure off.

StephyD216 · July 2012

We have our gifts stacked in a spare bedroom until after the wedding. We'll be closing on our house right after the honeymoon, so we're going to wait until we're moved in to use everything. New house, new toys!

brij2006 · July 2012

We are actually using our gifts. I didn't know about that whole, don't use them until after the wedding, and started unpacking them when we got home. The only way I found out was because I told my co-worker about the laundry sorter and of how FI is actually using it, then she mentioned you technically are supposed to wait to use them till after the wedding. Woops.

My favorite gift would have to be from one of my bridesmaids. I'm a complete "wino", and she got me this bottle of homemade wine that has an engagement picture of us on the label and says "Maupin winery, Est. August 18th, 2012."

As far as the cash and giftcards. Unless there is something off your registry that you need before the wedding, I would wait and use them after. We got a few giftcards to Kohls, and a LOT of duplicate gifts. So we returned those for in store credit, and used one of the gift cards to purchase the piece of luggage we need for the honeymoon. Since we're leaving the day after the wedding, and want to have everything packed beforehand.

bridejl · July 2012

We are using our gifts. There is no worry that we won't be getting married, so it would be pointless for us to wait to use them after something we know is going to happen. We also happened to need most of the stuff quite badly, such as kitchen items. For example, in college our mixing bowl was one of the three ceramic serving bowls my mom handed down to us. It is very nice and useful having real mixing bowls now.

libby2483 · July 2012

We are staying with family whole we close on our house, so right now, the gifts are sitting unused in the extra bedroom. But we are supposed to close on our house on Friday, and I will be using my gifts once we move in. I know you technically aren't supposed to, but all of my relatives have made comments about me using the gifts in the new kitchen once I move in, so they clearly don't care if I use them.

calindi · July 2012

I have no problem using the gifts, as I know without a shadow of a doubt that we'll be getting married. I'm pretty sure we'll be getting a dehydrator this weekend at my shower, and I know FI will have that out of the box within minutes of me getting home to make jerky!

However, we're living with my parents currently and moving Oct 1st, so most things will remain in boxes to make the transition easier.

colstj1 · July 2012

we have our gifts stacked down in my parents bedroom. It'll be hard in two weeks once I move into our first apartment and I still won't be able to use them. But I plan to save them until my FI moves in with me after the wedding and we can use them together. There is one item that my MOH got us that she gave us permission to use before the wedding though. A creme brulee torch and set (she included the mix). But that is my one exception.

i2012do · July 2012

I'm kind of doing a mix. We have been looking at houses and want to buy a place before March of enxt year. I just imagine moving into a new place and unpacking all nice new things.... instead of jamming them into my tiny apartment.
With the exception of a few things. My mom got us that I have been using.

I also returned some stuff and I am using anything I exchanged it for.

Cash all the checks and do what you want with the money, its up to you. I didn't receive that much cash, just around $200 so I ended up using it to upgrade my wedding band from .50 to .75 carats.

rungirl12 · July 2012

I have never heard of this and ripped into all my gifts within a couple days and made necessary returns. I even wrote on the thank-you notes how I had already used some of the items & how great they are.

My favorite gift was Zak Designs colorful confetti mixing bowls. So fun & bright!

And on a side note, I cannot believe how many brides on here are moving now, or soon. Yikes, that's a lot to deal with!

spazticrexe · July 2012

We've been using our pre-wedding gifts. We mostly have recieved things from the registry for Christmas and birthdays thus far, so it's not like it's a crazy conflict. My shower is coming up in the next couple weeks and I suspect we'll use those gifts right away as well. For us, it just comes down to the fact that we're already living together in the place where we're going to be for the next few years. It would be way different if one or both of us were moving.

tuarceatha · July 2012

We're moving soon after the wedding, so we are keeping everything in it packaging and planning on using the boxes to move. That and we kinda wanna save these special gifts for the next step in our life together.

I think it is a nice tradition to not use these gifts until after the wedding. Some people don't live together, so that'd be a reason to wait until you're together.

You should do whatever works best for you two. They are your gifts...

Ajoyd · July 2012

We already own a home and live together, so yes, we are using them. This wedding is HAPPENING!!!

People say you shouldn't use them but let's be honest, what percentage of weddings get canceled after the shower? I would say verrrrrrrry low.

Go for it!

Our favorite gift is our KitchenAid stand mixer. FI used it to make my AMAZING birthday cake last month.

[Deleted User] · July 2012

We've been using ours, we had to unpack them to put them away (nowhere to stack all of them).
We had several family members and friends ask how we were enjoying them anyway (IE: do you love the vacuum? how is it?), and they seem very satisfied that we're using them already.

frantastic12 · July 2012

Using many of them...my shower was a bit early (2.5 months before the wedding), and we wanted to be able to use our dining room for those 2.5 months, rather than climb around boxes. There are a few things (towels, some decor) that we're waiting to use until we buy a house next spring.

Side note: I've heard people on TK say "Well even if you're certain you'll get married, you never know. People have died right before the wedding". Seriously?! Who in the world would want (or accept) a gift back in that situation? If I gave a gift to a bride-to-be and the groom died, the toaster I gave her would be the FURTHEST thing from my mind! I have a hard time believing that even the most judgy, critical person would want/expect/accept a returned gift in that situation.

[Deleted User] · July 2012

I understand the sentiment behind the "don't use it in case the wedding doesn't take place", but the way I see it, as long as you're prepared to replace them if (god forbid) something happens and the wedding doesn't go forth as planned, you're fine. I'm not using mine because we're storing them at my parent's house for a little while, though- on practicality, not principle.

KT020803 · July 2012

I have heard of people doing it both ways. As long as you have already written out all your Shower thank you cards I don't see anything wrong with using them. I was tempted to use the gift cards too and then made myself realize that maybe some people that won't want to just give money will want to get us some of the remaining registry items, so I'm going to hold off.

My Favorite gift was a spa day with my maid of honor for a massage, mani/ pedi two days before the wedding and my SIL made me a picture frame with my future last name. The pictures are amazing! Each photo is another letter. My favorite part of that is my future hubby is a mechanic and she made the letter 'B" (first letter of last name) from a silohette of a measuring tape.

lb1212 · July 2012

FI and I moved the weekend after my shower and we've unpacked almost everything! I had never heard that you weren't supposed to use the gifts until after the wedding until after we had unpacked and used most every item. I (jokingly) told FI that if he calls off the wedding, he'll be the one to fork over the cash to replace all the gifts.

eguzman2323 · July 2012

Fi and I are not yet using our shower gifts since we havent moved into our home yet, so theres no sense in unpacking them...but i see no harm in using your favorite items

My favorite shower gift would have to be our dinnerware set! It is a beautiful poppy color that goes with the rest of the kitchen decor! Our best friends were kind enough to get that for us! We will love having them over for dinner to share our gift!

RichNicci4211122 · July 2012

We are using all the stuff the we received at my shower, because I had never heard that you weren't supposed to use anything until after the wedding and there's NO WAY IN H-E-double hockey stick that this wedding isn't happening.

Slider_852000 · July 2012

I had no idea you were not supose to use the gifts until after the wedding my FI unpacked everything and put it away the night of the shower we got all kitchen stuff n he has been going crazy. The only thing we have not used is the gift cards because we are waiting to see whats left on the registry after the wedding and not cashing any checks for the actual wedding

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