RSVP follow ups, how is it going?

DeClue82 · July 2012

Have people been getting pretty quick responses? I'm going to start sending soon and was just wondering how it was going for all of you that have started. Anyone had anything crazy happen? Rude guest? Someone not get the invite? I want to be as prepared as I can..

This is what I plan to send to those that I can email:

Hi _________!

I haven't received your RSVP card yet, and I was wondering if you planned to attend the wedding? Also, wanted to check to make sure you received the invite. Thanks for your response.

Lauren

random4180 · July 2012

So far I've only contacted two people via facebook chat who happened to be on when I was- my RSVP date was yesterday so I'm giving most people until Wed in case they sent it back last minute. A lot of the people left are people who are friends of our parents (which means the follow up will likely be delegated!) or they're friends from the camp we met at who are actually working this year- this is their first week with campers so I know it's insane up there. I will probably start leaving messages for them in the camp office on Saturday. Nothing has been too crazy thus far but I still have almost 60 people without responses.

odustudent22 · July 2012

my FI and I were just dealing with this. We've had a couple of guests invite themselves, then not send the stupid rsvp back. and a few of our invites are giving us the "I hope I'll be there" or "I'm planning on attending" (like if something better comes along they're gone.

We JUST had one invite send us a message saying there are some things going on and don't count them for dinner, and if they can make it they'll pay the venue quitetly for their dinners. WTH is that...we'd never have our guests pay for themselves. I get that people have things going on in their lives, but is it so hard to commit to....or even decline, an invitation.

Sorry. End rant.

lb1212 · July 2012

This is what I'm sending out : "Dear Honored Guest, Can you believe our wedding is only X days away?!? We are so excited! Unfortunately, we don't seam to have your RSVP card. Would you please let us know if you are planning an attending? We sincerely hope to see you on wedding date! Love, Bride and Groom"

tuarceatha · July 2012

We won't start following up with those who haven't replied until Sunday or Monday, I think. I plan on calling (or having others in my family call) those folks because we need to know more than if they are coming or not. I need to know their meal selection by 7/20 to send that off to the caterer.

Jojo714 · July 2012

I would probably just call, but if you really just want to send a written message, I'd reword it the way lb1212 wrote it.

I've had 31 guests rsvp and don't plan on calling anyone until 7/30 (the deadline is 7/27). I am missing alot of people, but if they are anything like me- when I don't rsvp right away it's because I generally have to make sure I didn't commit myself to something else. Then, I tend to forget about it (which is horrible I know), I don't do it on purpose, and am giving them the benefit of the doubt that they are the same way.

frantastic12 · July 2012

Our deadline was 7/6, and we stilll have about 50 or so people unaccounted for :-/ Almost all are on FI's side, including his mom and grandfather, which is irritating. A number of them are his coworkers though, so it shouldn't be too hard to get a yes/no from them. We're going to give people the rest of this week, and then call next week.

DeClue82 · July 2012

I still can't believe how many people are so RUDE! You have a stamp, most offices have mailboxes in them... and even if not it's not that big a deal to get an RSVP back to the B&G!!! My guests have had nearly 3 months now to return them and I'm still missing 44 out of 102!!! UGHHH it is sooo frustrating... I know most of you are in the same boat...

[Deleted User] · July 2012

We are so over already that i'm praying that no one else RSVP our deadline is 7/14 and 7/22 to make travel arrangements - if i dont have a rsvp and any travel info ( flight/hotel) I'm going to send a nice/nasty email something like this...

Dear ___,

The date to make your RSVP and Hotel/Flight plan has passed - and since we have not received yours so we gladly accept the fact that you will not be able to attend. Thanks for your well wishes in advance and hopefully we can get together in the future at other events that we will have. The happy couple is still registered at Macy's and gifts/cards are being accepted thru mail.

You like?????

dawnp917 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_august-2012-weddings_rsvp-follow-ups-how-is-it-going?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:1fb748ee-7a4e-40eb-b4b4-e553486f4cacDiscussion:bab68472-63b3-45f2-b129-20e6d030c8e7Post:b78b79ec-fe58-426d-b459-7137fca22cdb">Re: RSVP follow ups, how is it going?</a>:
[QUOTE]We are so over already that i'm praying that no one else RSVP our deadline is 7/14 and 7/22 to make travel arrangements - if i dont have a rsvp and any travel info ( flight/hotel) I'm going to send a nice/nasty email something like this... Dear ___, The date to make your RSVP and Hotel/Flight plan has passed - and since we have not received yours so we gladly accept the fact that you will not be able to attend. Thanks for your well wishes in advance and hopefully we can get together in the future at other events that we will have. The happy couple is still registered at Macy's and gifts/cards are being accepted thru mail. You like?????
Posted by aishaameena[/QUOTE]

Wow I hope you're joking. This email is beyond rude in my opinion. We have a friend from London who still hasn't booked a flight and is still potentially going to come. We had friends that missed the deadline to book at the hotel we had reserved they are still coming just staying elsewhere. The asking for gifts is way over the top, I would be completely offended to receive an email like this.

[Deleted User] · July 2012

I said that it was nice/nasty...

I am very serious! Our STD went out Jan 4th! and monthly emails with fight information as well our wedding is a destination in Florida - so therefore you had over 8 months to get your ish together and seeing how the Republican National Convention is the same week - air-fare is only going to go up = so therefore if you haven't bought a plane ticket by 7/22/2012 for 8/18/2012 - I dont see that its gonna happen.. And at 125.00 average per person for - I have no room for guessing who might come!

PS - People need to know that just because they declined your invite that they still need to send a gift or card!

dawnp917 · July 2012

My wedding is a destination wedding as well that doesn't mean I was rude when I was following up with them. Having a destination wedding does not change the fact that people procrastinate. You can politely ask people whether they are coming instead of coming off rude & obnoxious saying you are glad they are not attending and demanding gifts. People do NOT need to send a gift or card whether they attend or not.

[Deleted User] · July 2012

the last day ( before I start calling people) will be Sunday 7/29 - 2 weeks after the rsvp date and 7 days after the trave arrangement date - so that is plenty EXTRA TIME - and its not gonna be rude trust me - people know that i am very organized A type - I RUN A WHOLE CALL CENTER TRAINING DEPARTMENT - so I deal with people who Bull-zhit all day... I have no time for any extra peoples crap- they've had 8 months so I dont see why people bs around - either your coming or not - its that simple..

DeClue82 · July 2012

I agree... that email is harsh. I would just send a regular email asking them if they plan on coming... and skip that other jazz...

On another note I just got an email back from a follow up who NEVER GOT HIS INVITE!!! WTF!!!! Sorry I don't curse much anymore, but I am SOOOO mad!!!! This makes 4 people who never got their invitation. That's $4 in stamps and $8 in paper goods horrible USPS

ohnoitskaroljo · July 2012

My RSVP deadline is in 10 days and we have yet to hear back from ~90 people, out of our ~250 invited. Ugh. Irritating! I'm sure a lot of them will dawdle until the very last minute so during the last week of July I'll be making calls and emails and chats with people to find out if they're coming or not!

[Deleted User] · July 2012

We followed up, two people said they sent their responses right away, but we never got them.... seems odd but ok...We're waiting on 3 RSVPs, and my freaking sister.

mtbentley · July 2012

We have tried calling teh people on my side, a few still have to work out some schedule issues but are hoping to come and promised an answer by the weekend.

No one needs to send a gift card, even if they do go to the wedding they don't need to bring anything.

[Deleted User] · July 2012

I've already had two invitations "bounce" (returned to sender as undeliverable). One person moved and I had the old address (parent's friend), the other... the address was correct and I have no idea what happened. Anyways, I'm nowhere near starting to call the non-responders, but I'd definitely suggest that you call before emailing. Or attempt to.

Aisha- it is super frustrating when people can't make up their mind. That said, gifts aren't required, and I think by saying something implying you expect them, you'll actually end up with fewer because it will annoy people, and they'll respond passive-aggressively (by not getting you anything). Just saying, don't think that's going to work out the way you want it to.

[Deleted User] · July 2012

Ok ladies after much thought I decied to send a Reminder RSVP email - 2 days before the due date... I think its much mellower than my previous idea since - hopefully people will go to the mailbox.... Hello family and friends;

The RSVP date is approaching and we have yet to receive yours. To ensure a timely headcount please return your RSVP card by7/14/2012. We hope to see you all but we understand if you can not attend.

Looking forward to getting your RSVP card soon (even if you cant attend).

Thanks in advance for your well wishes!

For more wedding information - travel arrangements and registry please visit http://aishaandgregwed.weebly.com

Aisha and Gregory

***8/18/2012***

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