Bridesmaid Gift Question

egbulkley · February 2013

Hi everyone,

I got my bridesmaids earrings and a bracelet as their gift. I plan to give them to them at the rehearsal dinner, but should I tell them in advance what the gift is? I don't want them to go spend money on jewelry since they don't need to. Thank you!!!

Viczaesar · February 2013

Is that their only present?

libby2483 · February 2013

Things that are for your wedding are not really a gift to your BMs. It is nice of you to get them jewelry to wear for the wedding, but you should be getting them an additional gift as well.

mlg78 · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-gift-question-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:b3dd01d2-1b53-4995-a0f5-836bd51fd9a7Post:808f4554-03f0-4f3a-b42d-7e209d9306df">Re: Bridesmaid Gift Question</a>:
[QUOTE]Things that are for your wedding are not really a gift to your BMs. It is nice of you to get them jewelry to wear for the wedding, but you should be getting them an additional gift as well.
Posted by libby2483[/QUOTE]
Additionally...this should be a gift that they would specifically want for themselves (so don't get each one the same thing in most cases)...Something you might get them for Christmas or their birthday.

Peledreamsofrain · February 2013

Decorating your bridesmaids to make your pictures better isn't a gift to anyone but yourself. It's to please you, make you happy, and improve your event. There's no way to pass something so selfpleasing off as a favor to others. A real gift to them should be something that they aren't required to use for your wedding. Think what you'd get them for christmas or their birthdays.

strazzypants · February 2013

If they've seen the jewelry (or similar styles) and told you they love it (and aren't just saying so to make you happy), go for it.

strazzypants · February 2013

Sure, the original purpose for the jewelry is for the wedding. But who says they can't wear it after? Some of my friends received necklaces for their bridal party gift (and to wear on the day) but they wear them all the time.

jsurmacy · February 2013

In all honesty I know most people think this is a huge no-no, but I have recieved jewlery for every single wedding I have been in since I was a 3 year old flower girl. I have actually never been to a friend or family's wedding where day of jewlery was not the gift. I think if that is standard for your circle then it is fine. I was never upset or felt like I was not properly being thanked because it was expected that I would get jewlery. I have chosen not to do that for my wedding and I have actually been approached by quite a few woman with confusion as to why I am not doing jewlery!

AddieCake · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-gift-question-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:b3dd01d2-1b53-4995-a0f5-836bd51fd9a7Post:2a6a3e72-5846-400a-8bac-e0a336f591c4">Re: Bridesmaid Gift Question</a>:
[QUOTE]Sure, the original purpose for the jewelry is for the wedding. But who says they can't wear it after? Some of my friends received necklaces for their bridal party gift (and to wear on the day) but they wear them all the time.
Posted by strazzypants[/QUOTE]

<div>They might be able to, but would you get this particular jewelry for them if they were not in your wedding? If not, it's not a gift for them. It's only attire for your wedding. </div>

egbulkley · February 2013

I have been in several weddings and have always received jewelry to wear as the gift. This has not in any way bothered me. I considered it generous, knowing how much they are spending on everything else. I am very sad to hear that everyone thinks this is a bad gift. Thank you for those that tried to help.

jennyd412 · February 2013

Jewelry has been my gift (or part of my gift) in every wedding too.

beardownbchs · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-gift-question-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:b3dd01d2-1b53-4995-a0f5-836bd51fd9a7Post:d06d84c3-2bc5-4469-81ad-5646e965ccce">Re: Bridesmaid Gift Question</a>:
[QUOTE]I have been in several weddings and have always received jewelry to wear as the gift. This has not in any way bothered me. I considered it generous, knowing how much they are spending on everything else. I am very sad to hear that everyone thinks this is a bad gift. Thank you for those that tried to help.
Posted by egbulkley[/QUOTE]

<div>We're all trying to help. Just because you disagree with or don't want to hear our advice doesn't mean that we're not trying to help. It's not a bad gift, it's not a gift at all. You should be buying your bridal party gifts that you would get them for their birthday or Christmas. Would you honestly buy your friends matching jewelry for Christmas? No! You can absolutely get them the jewelry, but you should also get them something else they would like. It doesn't have to be huge or expensive, maybe a restaurant gift card or a bottle of wine. Something that says "thank you for being with me on the most important day of my life" instead of "I want to make sure you look pretty in my pictures". </div>

allychase · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-gift-question-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:b3dd01d2-1b53-4995-a0f5-836bd51fd9a7Post:59183e14-79bd-478b-ab8e-636110025744">Re: Bridesmaid Gift Question</a>:
[QUOTE]In all honesty I know most people think this is a huge no-no, <strong>but I have recieved jewlery for every single wedding I have been in since I was a 3 year old flower girl. </strong>I have actually never been to a friend or family's wedding where day of jewlery was not the gift. I think if that is standard for your circle then it is fine. I was never upset or felt like I was not properly being thanked because it was expected that I would get jewlery. I have chosen not to do that for my wedding and I have actually been approached by quite a few woman with confusion as to why I am not doing jewlery!
Posted by jsurmacy[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>So imagine how great it would feel not getting another sh!tty necklace and something you can actually use in your day to day life!</div>

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