Tattoos

CamiB30 · May 2012

My little sister, who I'd want to be a BM, has a TON of tattoos including a HUGE one on the center of her chest and one on her right arm that includes bullet casings, brass knuckles, various other weapon-themed things...these are just a few of her major ones.

I don't mind small tattoos, but I feel hers would be a distraction since they are so prominent. I haven't asker her to be a BM yet because I want to approach her covering up the tattoos in a tactful way.

Any ideas on how to approach this? How about suggestions to covering them up??

Swazzle · May 2012

I would be really offended if someone said "I'd like for you to be a BM, but not with your tattoos."

Her tattoos are apart of her & I feel like it should be up to her whether or not she covers them. I have tattoos, though, so maybe I'm just taking it personally.

hisbabygirl76 · May 2012

I understand that you might not be a big fan of her tattoos but as RDR said, its part of who she is. My baby sister has tattoos on her arms, upper back, shoulder blades, ankle. They all will show in her BM dress. Just par for the course. Not sure you can really ask her to cover them up.

FLGatorGal88 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]<strong>I would be really offended if someone said "I'd like for you to be a BM, but not with your tattoos."</strong> Her tattoos are apart of her & I feel like it should be up to her whether or not she covers them. I have tattoos, though, so maybe I'm just taking it personally.
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

I agree with this... I also have tattoos that are very visible and I dont plan on covering any of mine up for our wedding nor would I ask for someone else to cover theirs...

PJBHL5 · May 2012

Meh, I have tattoos, including visible ones, and I wouldn't be offended if someone asked if I could cover them up. Then again, I don't have any tattoos that could even remotely be considered offensive or distracting.
Maybe just choose a BM dress that cover the most distracting ones?

turtleslove · May 2012

I personally don't care if tatoos show. I know my mother will be upset that I am not making my MOH cover hers, but oh well.
The thing is, if you want her to cover them that should be respected. My MOH offered to cover hers before anyone else brought it up. Maybe you can find a dress that covers some and compromise?
The only thing you can do is ask her kindly, and in person.

lalans · May 2012

I kindof feel like this is similar to asking someone to dye their hair or lose weight so they look better in your pictures. Worse almost, since she has quite clearly chosen to decorate her body in the way that she has. I think you could ask, nicely, but be prepared for her to get offended.

Like PJBHL said, some people won't get offended... but if you are asking about how to ask her then I would guess you have an idea of how she is going to react.

The other option is just to chose more covering dresses or have them wear a sweater...like these ladies!

(Edit...Maryland in May might not be the best in terms of sweater weather

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mymissingpuzzlepiece · May 2012

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[QUOTE]I would be really offended if someone said "I'd like for you to be a BM, but not with your tattoos." Her tattoos are apart of her & I feel like it should be up to her whether or not she covers them. I have tattoos, though, so maybe I'm just taking it personally.
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

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melb2013 · May 2012

I on the same band wagon with everyone else- if you want her to be in your WP, then you should want all of her, tattoos included.

RebCappon · May 2012

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[QUOTE]I would be really offended if someone said "I'd like for you to be a BM, but not with your tattoos." Her tattoos are apart of her & I feel like it should be up to her whether or not she covers them. I have tattoos, though, so maybe I'm just taking it personally.
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

This, she is your sister and you know what she has going into asking her. Not only do you risk her being offended but damaging your relationship with her.

You are the bride on that day, if you are worried about other people looking at her tattoo's and seeing them I don't think that will be the focal point of the day at all.

SSaltzman87 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]I would be really offended if someone said "I'd like for you to be a BM, but not with your tattoos." Her tattoos are apart of her & I feel like it should be up to her whether or not she covers them.
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]
THIS.

Just don't do it, there's no nice way to ask someone to cover up their tattoos. If you were my sister, I'd be incredibly offended. Weddings aren't about having everyone look 'perfect' and achieving any sort of 'vision'

[Deleted User] · May 2012

If you can tell BM what dress to wear, what jewelry to wear, how to do their hair, etc then why not ask to cover tattoos? They're not something you're born with so why be offended?Being your sis I'm sure she'll understand. And yes, I have tattoos. And yes, I have a sister.

FLGatorGal88 · May 2012

In Response to Re:Tattoos:[QUOTE]If you can tell BM what dress to wear, what jewelry to wear, how to do their hair, etc then why not ask to cover tattoos? They're not something you're born with so why be offended?Being your sis I'm sure she'll understand.
And yes, I have tattoos. And yes, I have a sister. Posted by Pnutbutr[/QUOTE]

You can tell someone what to wear and you want their hair etc. but If I had a friend come and ask me to cover up my 1/2 sleeve I would be pretty pissed. As a PP said everyone is not going to be focused on her sister tattoos that day... Sad to say if it bothers her that much maybe she shouldn't be a bridesmaid... Also think of the make up she has to buy if she does agree to cover them up it can get expensive...

SRRL18 · May 2012

I'd be offended. My MOH (my sister) has a tattoo on her ankle that I hate, but I wouldn't pick a long dress just to cover it. She also has tattoos on her shoulder blades and her neck, it's who she is.

Are you wanting the tattoos covered for a SPECIFIC reason?

[Deleted User] · May 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Tattoos:

You can tell someone what to wear and you want their hair etc. but If I had a friend come and ask me to cover up my 1/2 sleeve I would be pretty pissed. As a PP said everyone is not going to be focused on her sister tattoos that day... Sad to say if it bothers her that much maybe she shouldn't be a bridesmaid... Also think of the make up she has to buy if she does agree to cover them up it can get expensive...
Posted by FLGatorGal88[/QUOTE]

I see what you're saying but personally I wouldn't be offended if my sis asked me to cover up (which is a possibility...she doesn't have any). That's just the type of relationship we have I guess.

jodyellen · May 2012

I agree with Pnutbutr. I think you should be able to ask your sister to cover up her tattoos ... it may be different if she wasn't your sister but she is and you should be able to at least ask her. Otherwise, pick a dress that covers them up. I think that if she has the kind of tattoos that you described, they absolutely will be distracting. I would be trying to figure out all the pictures instead of concentrating on the ceremony ... seriously ... you don't see big statement tattoos like that everyday! What is the worst that can happen? She can say 'no' . I would think it would be more important to her to be included in your wedding that have those tattoos on display for a day.

Swazzle · May 2012

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[QUOTE]I agree with Pnutbutr. I think you should be able to ask your sister to cover up her tattoos ... it may be different if she wasn't your sister but she is and you should be able to at least ask her. Otherwise, pick a dress that covers them up. I think that if she has the kind of tattoos that you described, they absolutely will be distracting. I would be trying to figure out all the pictures instead of concentrating on the ceremony ... seriously ... you don't see big statement tattoos like that everyday! <strong>What is the worst that can happen? She can say 'no' .</strong> I would think it would be more important to her to be included in your wedding that have those tattoos on display for a day.
Posted by jodyellen[/QUOTE]

<div>And then what? OP tells her, "Sorry, then you can't be a BM" ?</div>

Mandee89 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]I would be really offended if someone said "I'd like for you to be a BM, but not with your tattoos." Her tattoos are apart of her & I feel like it should be up to her whether or not she covers them. I have tattoos, though, so maybe I'm just taking it personally.
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

^This
But also if she does chose to cover them up I saw a kit at Davids Bridal that helps cover tattoos and I asked someone about it and she said that her friend used it and it worked great.

Best of luck!!!!

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