A few weeks ago I went to work with a really bad headache so I left and went to my fiance's house to nap while he and his family were at work (i asked them if that was ok). while in his room i saw that his old cell phone was on. he stopped using it becuase his work gave him one to use for personal and business. i did a bad thing and snooped through his phone becuase i'm nosy. i came across texts between him and other girls that had been sent recently...basically, he was saying he was single and plans were made to meet up with some of the girls. i was devestated! upon further snooping in his room i came across a self pleasure device and was devestated.
i text him that he we need to talk so he came home for lunch. i flat out asked if he was seeing girls behind my back and asked him to explain the messages.
he said he wasnt seeing anyone and nver met up with them. he didn't know why he even started to talk to them and promised he wasn't cheating on me. i cried a lot and he just sat there stunned. then i asked about that other thing and he said his friends gave it to him as joke becuase they know he is a virgin. he said he will cancel his phone that day and throw that thing away. he asked me if i wanted to call off our wedding and i said no. i believe what he said to me but my best friend wasn't sure he was honest and that he might do something again.
i also asked him if he wants to marry me. i told him that means he is with me and only me for the rest of his life. he knows it will take me a while to trust him again.
i couldn't bear to be without him and i'm not ready to give up that easy. we talked things over and decided we are both 100% committed to this relationship and marriage. and we still want to get married and have a life together.
i don't know why he felt the need to seek an ego boost from other girls but ic an't help think i must not have been doing somethign right...i told him to tell me if he ever isn;t happy and what i can do to make it better. i love him so much and i know he loves me.
should i have cancelled our wedding and called things off? should i have post poned it? did i do the right thing?
we are done talking about it becuase we both want to put it behind us and just move forward.