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Wedding party gifts?

JessicaPopJessicaPop member
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Is it really necessary to give gifts to the bridal party? My fiance and I have never heard of this and neither have our families. We are from different cultures though, He's Romanian and I'm Cuban and I guess we just don't do that. But my bridesmaids are American.... would they be expecting bridal party gifts? I guess I'm just a little confused about the whole thing.... Is this a cultural thing or is it more of a new thing in weddings? Our families have also never heard of gifts for the parents... You should see the look I got from my parents when I mentioned all these gifts for everyone... they think the whole giving gifts to everyone is so weird. Are you giving gifts to your parents and bridal party? Is it the norm or just a little extra something for them? If you didn't give the gifts, did anyone notice?
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  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    I've always known that you give gifts to the BP and parents.  It's a way of thanking them for standing by you.  The gifts don't have to be big or expensive, just something personal to each of them.  A bottle of wine if they like wine, a nice pair of earrings if they are a jewelry person.
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  • mcskatcatmcskatcat member
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    It's been around for a quite a while.  

    And even if you're viewing it as a trendy or cultural thing, the whole point is to thank your WP for shelling out bucks and time to be a part of your day.  Fact of the matter is they are putting some effort into being their for you, and that's what you should be thanking them for.  
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  • hoffsehoffse member
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    I don't know if it's a cultural thing, but it's been around for a long time - I've always known that's what you do.  I would bet that your bridesmaids would anticipate receiving something.
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  • rachaelgettingmarriedrachaelgettingmarried member
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    Ditto everyone else, from what I have experienced and heard it is pretty standard. You should know that it also doesnt have to be a big or expensive gift. I did small individual gifts for my maids and then wrote them all a note, it was definitely challenging at times, but I am so glad that I did that! They all did so much for me, it was nice to give them something in return. 
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  • JessicaPopJessicaPop member
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    Okay thanks for the advice everyone!! I just wanted to make sure that I was right about it, I was starting to think I was the odd one for wanting to give gifts... lol. 
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  • sparent2010sparent2010 member
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    My FI is Bulgarian and his family has heard of giving gifts to WP and Parents.

    Building off of Jagore- it is also to recognize and give thanks to  your parents for raising you, and since your WP should be the nearest and dearest it is a way to thank them for supporting you through the years.
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  • librababylibrababy
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    I have heard of it and planned on doing it just because (you really don't have to... a nice note or card would suffice). 

     However, I had never heard that the gifts you give your WP to wear in the wedding is not considered a gift.  I am on a tight and I mean TIGHT budget and I am gifting the BM's earrings and bracelets to wear on the wedding day and the GM really socks to match Fi's.  It might be a cultural thing because Fi's family never heard of this either nor do they follow that 'tradition' nor does my family really.  It'll be a shock and surprise to my WP to be getting a gift from me and they totally don't expect it.  


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  • JenniferRaye8JenniferRaye8
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    I've been in 5 weddings and have gotten some really cool gifts. Necklace with my first initial on it, necklace with my birthstone, braclet, tote bag with my initials on it and in my favorite color with a beach towel and lotion in the same color inside, a photo book with pictures from the wedding that she and I were in together...
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  • librababylibrababy
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    I still think that a gift you give the bp to wear in the wedding is still a GIFT.  At least in my circle it will be as we never do this.  Ever.  No one gives their bp gifts in my family or fi's family so they will be truly surprised.  And the bracelets and earrings I got my bm's are truly things they love and will want to wear again ( I know them so I know this... it's similar to things they wear everyday).  The only people that won't really love the set is my sister and mom, but I am getting them something extra since they are the maid and matron of honors.

    Op, whatever you can give, be it a nice heart felt card or jewelry they can wear, they will appreciate it. If it's not done in your circle it will truly be a nice surprise.

    Oh and I have heard the sentiment about not liking monogrammed gifts... I love them LOL.
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