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2010now · May 2010

What is the best way to avoid having one side of the room all his family and the other my family. I"m hispanic and he's white, i'm freaking out that its going to be white on the right and brown on the left????

peaches85 · May 2010

In my experience that's kind of how weddings are divided so that people can sit with who they know. It's not a "white/brown" thing, it's a "your family/his family" thing. If you wanted to mix everyone together then go right ahead, but once everyone's on the dance floor it shouldn't matter anyway.

debdebdol · May 2010

Seating chat might help.

heidi1068 · May 2010

Definitely do a seating chart. The individual tables will still be one family or the other, especially if there's a language barrier, but you can alternate them if it is really a concern.

ExpatPumpkin · May 2010

We had a bi-cultural wedding: I'm from the States and he's Mexican. We had a seating chart, but I think the tables were scattered around the room. From the wedding video, I noticed that the pews were mixed in the church. Meaning we didn't have a "hers" and "his" side separation...

In any event, there were no issues. The seating arrangement put families and friends together. And those tables were randomly placed. Everyone had a great time. See my bio if you're curious.

Good luck

munkii · May 2010

We did things the same way as Expat, and everything turned out wonderfully--everyone mixed together.

loop0406 · May 2010

That's very common, don't stress on that.

ginajs · May 2010

I'm on the same boat so this post was very helpful, although my wedding is in Mexico and I'm not sure if seating charts are common there.

ExpatPumpkin · May 2010

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[QUOTE]I'm on the same boat so this post was very helpful, although my wedding is in Mexico and I'm not sure if seating charts are common there.
Posted by ginajs[/QUOTE]

I live in Mexico now, and in my experience weddings here are generally more formal than in the States... Seating charts are the norm, but not in chart form. There are usually two people at the reception entrance with a clipboard list of names and table assignments.

I would imagine that charts aren't used simply because of the size of the weddings; all the ones I've been to have ranged from 250-800 guests, with the average being around 500. I'm sure your in-laws can help you with this. And hopefully your wedding won't be so big - that's exactly why we decided to have a DW in the States ;)

heidi1068 · May 2010

@ginajs--definitely talk to your family/in-laws in Mexico and find out what the guests will expect as there is variability depending on both geography and socio-economic class. I went to four weddings in Mexico last year (we were supposed to go to a fifth but had to cancel because of swine flu!). Two of them were as expat pumpkin described with hostesses who had clipboards. One of them had place cards and the fourth was open seating (which I don't recommend unless it is what is expected because I think it makes it more difficult for guests).

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