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D&K Teplinsky D&K Teplinsky member
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My mom does not want to wear a dress to my wedding. My husband to be familhy are Encino CA snobs. Ido not want her to be under dressed any suggestions?Am I being paranoid.
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  • Ven&RadioVen&Radio member
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    Not all women like wearing skirts or dresses.  There are plenty of nice, dressy pants out there.  Maybe you can go shopping with your mom and help her pick out an appropriate outfit with dress pants for your wedding? 
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    Like PP said there are plenty of dressy pants out there.

    Here are a few I found...
    http://www.dillards.com/product/Alex-Evenings-WideLeg-Chiffon-Pants_301_-1_301_501238968

    http://www.dillards.com/product/Onyx-Nite-Woman-DrapeTie-Chiffon-Pants_301_-1_301_500989695

    These can easily be paired with a sequined top or any other appropriate blouse/jacket.

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  • StephBeanWed61502StephBeanWed61502 member
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    There's nothing wrong with wearing dressy pants to a wedding.  If your FILs are that snobby, their attitudes reflect poorly on them, not you or your mother.  Some additional links to great pants/pantsuits your mom could wear:

    http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/tahari-by-asl-suit-cascade-collar-jacket-sleeveless-sequin-top-wide-leg-pants?ID=671878&CategoryID=39096&LinkType=#fn=SUIT_STYLE%3DPant Suit%26sp%3D1%26spc%3D27%26ruleId%3D25%26slotId%3D7

    http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/le-suit-suit-printed-wrap-jacket-pants?ID=644981&CategoryID=39096&LinkType=#fn=SUIT_STYLE%3DPant Suit%26sp%3D1%26spc%3D27%26ruleId%3D25%26slotId%3D21

    http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/ny-collection-pants-wide-leg-pleated-chiffon-palazzo?ID=666696&CategoryID=157&LinkType=#fn=PANT_STYLE%3DWide Leg%26sp%3D1%26spc%3D61%26ruleId%3D60%26slotId%3D22
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  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    The first link maggie posted is very similar to the pants I wore to one of our DD's weddings.  I am just not a dress person.  I always feel really huge and not very attractive in a dress but I do feel great when I'm dressed up in a pair of pants like you see in that link.

    I had a black and silver sequined jacket for the top and got a ton of compliments - especially from the bride and groom.  Don't worry about it.

    Think about it like this:  if your FIL's are kinda snobby about these things, it is your job to have your mom's back here, not worry about wether or not she will impress them.  It will all be good, promise.
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  • graffeograffeo
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    I am not sure if this is like out of fashion but i remember seeing people at weddings who had dressy pants but they looked like a dress or skirt bc of fabric on the outside. They were comfy but looked amazing. I thnk like everyone said u can find nice dressy pants for a wedding. At my friends wedding her MIL wore pants but it looked like they were white pants she had laying around and a top. Then also people who have a dress on can looked underdressed too if it is a summer dress. SO i say dont stress pants look great at a wedding
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  • Mimmer04Mimmer04 member
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    Dressy pant suits can be fabulous.  She will always look more elegant and refined if she is dressed in something in which she is comfortable than if she is dressed in something that makes her uncomfortable. 

    Help her find a kick ass pant suit and if the in laws say anything reply with "her dress may be inferior [even if its not], but at least her manners aren't" or something else equally snarky.
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  • enchantedonyxenchantedonyx
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    pant suits are classy and elegant, if they fit right!

    A friend got married in 1992 and when she looks at the pictures now she says she is embarrased by the dresses her bridesmaids are wearing, how ridiculous her gown was, etc, but her mother looks amazing even 20 years later because she was wearing a tan colored suit and just looks timeless.
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  • owengirl996owengirl996 member
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    Don't worry about it! They can be gorgeous, and it's not the end of the world. I think whatever makes your mom more comfortable will be better for everyone.

    I've heard nothing at all about what FI's mom will be wearing, but I'm going to assume it will be pants. I love her dearly, but I'm also guessing it will be something she's had for 10+ years. But to be honest, I am letting that one go. I trust that she can dress herself, and I'm not about to tell an adult what to wear. I'd give opinions if asked, like I did for my mom, but otherwise, it's not my place. I think as long as she's aware of how "formal" everyone else will be, it's best to just trust her to choose something appropriate.
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  • jemmini6jemmini6 member
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    As PP's mentioned, there are some very stunning pants suits available these days.  I'd rather have my mom be comfortable with what she's wearing and actually enjoy herself, then worry about snobby assholes thinking she's not good enough because she's not in a dress.
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  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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  • D&K Teplinsky D&K Teplinsky member
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    Thank you everyone you helpedme a lot. I will let my mom know about your suggestions. Thank you
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  • dragontrainerdragontrainer member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_mom-wants-to-wear-pants?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:2e8c285e-4122-4b42-8aeb-5c4013802d3ePost:64d03783-ce6d-47aa-8d18-825095ee54ad">Mom wants to wear pants</a>:
    [QUOTE]My mom does not want to wear a dress to my wedding. My husband to be familhy are <strong>Encino CA snobs</strong>. Ido not want her to be under dressed any suggestions?Am I being paranoid.
    Posted by D&K Teplinsky[/QUOTE]

    Not everyone here are snobs.... <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-frown.gif" border="0" alt="Frown" title="Frown" />

    But a lot of celebrities live in the area, so, I get it. LOL.
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  • tbrie210tbrie210
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    My FMIL is planning on wearing black yoga / gym pants and a wrap sweater and crocs And doesn't want to change her outfit or go shopping with me or anyone else because she feels Her outfit is fine. It's horrible I would wear it to clean my house ......
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  • Duckie&CricketDuckie&Cricket
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    My Mommy HATES dresses. Always has. I never once considered asking her to wear one to my wedding. We went shopping together and got her a nice outfit, no dress or skirt. FMIL is wearing a really nice dress she got a David's Bridal. I was worried about my Mommy feeling under-dressed, but she looks great in what we got her and she will be comfy (which is what matters).

    Also, my pastor's wife never wears dresses. She has worn a nice pants suit to all of her children's weddings. Dresses are not necessary to look nice, elegant, classy etc. :)
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  • OwningAHome1981OwningAHome1981 member
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    Your mom should not have to sacrifice what she wears b/c your FI's family are snobs! I would want my mom to feel comfortable and beautiful on my day- as I am sure you would want your mom to as well. I say, let your mom wear whatever she wants- she will be gorgeous- it doesn't matter what other people think anyway.
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