October 2012 Weddings

Cocktail hour without the cocktails?

So here's the thing. Our ceremony venue and reception venue are roughly a half-block from each other. They're within walking distance. We want to give plenty of time for us to take pictures and I kind of screwed up on the invitations. Our ceremony is at 3:30, we're expecting to be done around 3:45-3:50. On the invitations, I put the reception would begin at approximately 5:00, which only gives us an hour to do all our photos (we aren't doing a first look). I was wanting to push our entrance back to 5:30, but I don't want to have an hour and a half gap for people to wander around aimlessly.

I know most people fill this with a cocktail hour ... first off, our venue doesn't allow alcohol (city-owned), and second off, we don't have the budget to fill this time in with extra drinks or food. Would it be appropriate to just open the reception hall to guests at 4:30 (or maybe earlier), have music playing, and maybe have a light snack available like popcorn or cotton candy (which would fit our amusement park theme)? And then we show up at 5:30 for our grand entrance. Or would that be too long of a gap without a real filler?

I'm really overly concerned about leaving a huge gap for people to get bored in because of a wedding I went to in April (that broke pretty much every etiquette rule there is) where there was a 3 hour gap between ceremony and reception so that the bridal party could go bar hopping and get drunk before the reception. Undecided I don't want to come across as rude and abandoning our guests, but I want time for photos!

And yes, I realize 5 days out is kind of last minute to be thinking about this but I was trying to finalize our timeline and panicked.
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  • edited October 2012
    The last wedding we were at on Saturday had  3 hour gap... it was a bit much...but an hour hour and a half I don't see as a problem... as long as there is room to sit, most people should expect to wait at a wedding for the bridal party I expect
  • As long as you have snacks and refreshments for the whole time in between the end of the ceremony and when you enter, not including travel time, so if they're walking distance I'd do a 4 or 415 start. I think an hour and a half is fine, two hours would be pushing it though.
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    You may not need all that time for pictures. I was thinking it would take an hour for our pictures but our photographer said she could get them done in 30 minutes if everyone cooperated and didnt take off to the bar. Talk to your photographer and see how long they think you need before you finalize anything.


    I agree with PP about having some sort of refreshment and snack for your guests, even if it's tea and popcorn.
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  • I think light snacks are fine.  You might want to provide some lemonade, etc. as well (I think that would fit your theme well).

    I went to one wedding where they had set up a scavenger hunt for the guests to do during the cocktail hour.  I think that most guests will happily wait about an hour (especially if you give them snacks and chairs) although an 1.5 - 2 hours is a really long time.

    If you create your list of pictures ahead of time and give a copy to your photography, the photos will go much faster.  You can also do grandparent and family photos first, so they can leave and go sit down.  The fewer people you have there, the faster the photos will go.
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  • Well, we aren't going to have grandparent photos (my grandma is the only one left and she isn't able to attend for health reasons), and all of our parents hate having their pictures taken. lol.

    We're going to go ahead and go with the hour and a half, and if we're early, hey, that's more time to party! I'm pretty relieved hearing it's not a big deal. That gives people the choice of going to the reception building immediately or they can go back to the hotel and relax for a bit (the hotel's only 5 minutes away). Thanks ladies!!
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