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JaimeD727JaimeD727
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What is the typical amount to spend on the gift for the bridesmaids? I really want to buy them jewelry to wear with the dress. I found something I love, but not sure if it's too pricey. I only have 4 bridesmaid's so I feel like I can spend a little more.
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Re: BM Gift

  • RaptorSLHRaptorSLH member
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    edited December 2011
    If you're requiring them to wear it with the dress, it doesn't count as a gift, I'm afraid.  Ditto for shoes, or if you require professional hair and makeup.
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  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    edited December 2011
    What you're comfortable with.  However, if they're spending $150 on a dress, hair, accessories, pre-weddiing parties, then you should get them a little more than a CD (just an example).  

    Also, is the jewelry something they would all definitely wear again?  Your gift to them should have to do with the wedding, it should be a "thank you" that's personalized to them individually.
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  • JaimeD727JaimeD727
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks! I had no idea of the "protocol" for BM gifts. The only wedding I was in, we were required to get our hair and nails done (a particular way), and buy specific shoes. We were gifted a little individual gift and then accessories...
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    edited December 2011
    Spend what you are comfortable with...there is no set amount.  Shop for each BM like it is their birthday.  The gifts do not need to match and they seem more personal if you take each girls personality into account...such as Susie loves purses, Rachel loves adorable knick-knacks, Stephanie loves getting mani and pedis, etc etc

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  • em01092em01092 member
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto Maggie. 

    As for your previous experience as a BM, sadly this is common but it is technically rude of the bride to ask these things of her maids to fork out themselves. The one thing BMs are expected to buy is the dress, but that's it. 

    FTR, I spent about $40 on each BM: monogrammed (just first initial) beach towels in their favorite colors (all love the pool/beach), and then some little personal things for each girl depending on her likes, such as coffee mugs, cookbooks, clutches, hard water bottles, scarves, hats, etc. I'm also making my MOH a scrapbook on Shutterfly, which will run me about $30 extra, but I plan to give this to her in private, even though in my circle it's sort of expected that the MOH gets "more" for a gift. 
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  • Kate61487Kate61487 member
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    edited December 2011
    like PPs said anything for the day-of doesn't really count.  Other than that, spend what you can afford.  We spent about $50 on each of our BP members (everyone from FG to ushers, so it was over $1000 total, yikes).  In addition to their gifts I gave everyone BP tees with their "role" on it; I don't count that as a gift because it was 100% more for me than them, haha.

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