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Question about invitations

kelly1017kelly1017 member
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I know the wedding rule for invitations is to mail them out approx 2 months before your wedding so that would mean we would mail ours out in July. However my fiances mom is having a huge graduation party fot his sis next week and my FI thinks we should give the invites to the people who are attending the graduation party, since most of the people we are inviting will be there. His mom thinks that its a bad idea because people will loss them and it's just too soon. I can understand where his mom is coming from and where my fiance is coming from too.

My fiance thinks that if people really want to come to the wedding then they won't loss the invite and make an attempt to come. What do you girls think? Is it too soon or should we forget the wedding rule and just hand them to people early.  Please let me know your thoughts cause I'm torn between this. Thanks!
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  • lmparlettlmparlett member
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    edited December 2011
    I think that it is just more formal to send them through the mail, whether you said them now or then.  I also think it is a bit early if the wedding isn't until Sept. 

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  • LalanavLalanav
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    edited December 2011
    I think that, regardless of a person's desire to come, being handed an invitation while at a graduation party will just make it easier to lose.  It's really easy to misplace something you're given while at a party, even if you put it in your purse [and what about the people who might come sans purse?].  Not only that, but it would be pretty early for the invitations.  I say mail them - it's just safer all around.
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  • taccotentaccoten
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    edited December 2011
    Definitely wait and just mail them for reasons mentioned above.
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  • Musicheals71Musicheals71 member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow, you posted this question 3 times, did your computer hiccup? ;-)
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  • aneresRNaneresRN
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    edited December 2011
    Yeah, ditto others and wait to mail it. I can be very scattered and I can definitely see losing the invite somewhere while at a graduation party.  Doesn't mean I didn't love the person who gave it to me, just means I'm not going to remember it when I leave.  If it comes in the mail, I hang it on my fridge right away.  Also as PP said, it seems more formal to mail it. 
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  • Ellie*xoEllie*xo member
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    edited December 2011
    i def. say mail them.  not only do they risk losing them.. it can come across a bit tacky.  the guests are there enjoying a graduation party and then wedding talk gets thrown in.  i think it would prolly bother me a little bit if i was your fiance's sister.  it's better to mail them out , looks more official. :D
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  • njgal26njgal26
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with pps-wait and mail them.  You can def mention the wedding to people as a verbal STD but I would def mail the invitations later
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  • Musicheals71Musicheals71 member
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    edited December 2011
    All invitations should be mailed.  Period.
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  • BoldHartBoldHart member
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    edited December 2011
    I would wait to mail them too! There's something nice about getting something in the mail
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