FI doesnt want to write his vows...

babe915 · June 2012

I want to write my own vows because it is so much more personal, my FI could care less about writing them. What should I do? Would it be weird if I had my own vows to say and he did traditional ones?

timsflower81 · June 2012

I have the same problem... I actually already wrote vows - but FI doesn't want to read from a card or memorize anything... So I was thinking of taking the ones I wrote and putting them into a card to give him along with the gift I got for him.

catwine · June 2012

i'd ask your fiance why he doesn't want to write them. maybe he is shy about saying something more personal or maybe he can't think of what to write. if he really doesn't want to do it, don't push him. do what pp said and write him a nice love letter instead.

jmp2004 · June 2012

I'm having a similar issue. I'm thinking we are going to compromise and find some vows online that we can both say instead of the traditional vows. As in, our officiant will still read them, and we will repeat or whatever, just better vows.

Pinkstarshine1 · June 2012

Yeah, my fiancé and I aren't doing the traditional vows everyone says, but they aren't vows we wrote ourselves. We found something a little different. My fiancé was good with writing our own, but I actually hate the thought of getting too emotional in front of tons of people...some that I don't even know, in fact (my parents are inviting people they work with). I feel like reciting my own vows is way too emotional and personal to do in front of a lot of people, some being strangers, and is better left for a more private time. I think we are just going to write love letters to each other to read later.

RailWayWife · June 2012

Well you need to talk to him. Why doesnt he want to write them? Once you find out why he doesnt want to write them you as a couple need to decide if you two will write your own vows or not. Simple.

kitkatchica86 · June 2012

Maybe work it into your toast to him instead?

kikirst33 · June 2012

Perhaps I'm the odd one out but I have no interest in writing my own vows. My FI and I agree on this completely. We both know that we want to be together and the vow options that our officiant gave us work very well for us.

DramaGeek · July 2012

H and I wrote our own, but we wrote them together. I really wanted us each to write our own and say them to each other the day of, but I'm a writer and he is not and he was concerned about how his would come out. So, we sat down and wrote them together and then each used those on our wedding day. Not traditional, but he didn't have to write by himself.

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