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BellyB11BellyB11
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So, I've been thinking about this a lot lately and wanted some women who don't really know me that personally opinions. I am interested in joining the army. My FI is in the Marines, and I am a little worried about that. Nervous that we would literally never get to see eachother. He said if this is really something I want then go for it, but I could see the look in his eyes that was like please don't do this.. But if I enlist they said I can make it to where I wont be sent to bootcamp until after my wedding. Anyways, I was wondering if anyone else has done this, or knows about it? Thanks(:
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  • iluvmytxrgriluvmytxrgr member
    Knottie Warrior 1000 Comments 25 Love Its Name Dropper
    edited December 2011
    Have you considered the Reserves or National Guard?  You would still be able to serve and find a unit near where he is stationed.  I served in the Reserves for 6 years and loved it.  I miss it.  I would have stayed in for my full 20 had I not messed up my knee so badly.  I think it may be a good compromise for the two of you. 
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  • matchamatcha
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    edited December 2011
    My FI is in the National Guard. As long as you find a unit and MOS that suits you, it can be a great experience! However, do be warned that NG units get deployed as well. My FI's commander is "high-fiving" her husband- she gets back from her tour as he (also National Guard) is leaving for his deployment.  Those risks are real, so be aware of them. If that is something you both are willing to accept, I would seriously consider NG.

    Edit: Also consider your future family.  It can be tough on moms (and dads) to have to leave their kids for a full year.  That is something else to consider.  Certain MOS's don't deploy as much, so that's something to consider. I think that the opportunity to serve is amazing, but it does come with sacrifices.
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  • BellyB11BellyB11
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    edited December 2011
    I was thinking more on the active duty side, but maybe reserves would be better for us. I've heard that the army revserves will pay for some or all, depending on rank, of college. So i'll look into that. Thanks!



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  • TeamBabyTeamBaby
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    edited December 2011

    I've been active duty Army for 15 years.  My husband is active duty as well.  It has its pros and cons.  Why are you considering the Army (as opposed to USMC, since your FI is a Marine)?  I ask because your assignment manager cannot guarantee you'd be stationed together when you're both in 2 different branches.  Army and Marines will be very difficult (if not close to impossible) to assign together since there aren't any major bases that are co-located.  PM me if you have questions- I have a lot of experience that I can share- both on the enlisted and officer side.

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  • RethanyRethany
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    edited December 2011
    If NG interests you there are fulltime active duty positions in NG. My FI has been fulltime active duty for the last 5 years. And like matcha said there is still the possibility of deployment with NG. I would talk it over a little more with your FI and decide what is best for you both along with your future.
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  • IrishcurlsIrishcurls member
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto Sami, we have very good friends who are AD CG, married and living on different coasts--and will be until at least July-ish. There's no guarantee you'll be together, I would give it serious consideration. 
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  • Jillian04Jillian04
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    edited December 2011
    My FH is in the Army, a Captain, he knows many couples where they are in different branches or in the same branch and have to be in different units. It can be a challenge but if its somethign you really want to do, I think you should. you dont want to wonder years from now...
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  • SamiJoeBSamiJoeB
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    edited December 2011
    I'm actually Prior Service myself.  I was AD Navy, and my H still is AD Marine Corps.  A big factor for me getting out was lack of places for us to go together, and we were both Aviation so if we couldn't be stationed together (we were actually told, we'll put you in the same state, hopefully within 60 miles of each other)  I would think Army/MC would be extremely hard to coordinate.  It's not impossible, but it would definitely put a strain on things.  As for waiting until after your wedding, It doesn't really work that way.  You don't get to say "This is when I want to go"  more like they say "You can come this time.".   H and I met while AD, so I wouldn't trade my time for anything... 

    I will say though, joining just so that the military can pay for your school is not a good reason. 
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  • hakeefer1hakeefer1 member
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    edited December 2011
    You could do regular active duty if you wanted and possibly not have to worry about being separated.  It depends on your jobs though.  I'm Navy (medical) and the fiance is Air Force.  His job can be done on multiple bases which helps because I'm a little bit more limited.  But we don't have issues with were we'll be stationed, we'll be together.  
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  • kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member
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    edited December 2011
    Go talk to some recruiters. Definitely talk to the MC and Navy recruiters, but don't join a branch, especially the MC, just because your FI is in it. It's not for everyone, and I doubt they'd let you pick when you leave.
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  • BellyB11BellyB11
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you ladies for the advise!
    I will definitely go talk to recruiters from other branches, I've only talked to MC and Army. But the Navy and Air Force are def. something I would consider also. So again, thanks!
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  • iluvmytxrgriluvmytxrgr member
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    edited December 2011
    What jobs are you interested in? I agree with Stan that you should talk to recruiters from every branch. 
    There are some jobs that are unique to particular branches.  Those branches cover those jobs on every base no matter the branch.  For instance, if you are interested in being an Animal Care Specialist (vet tech), you would join the Army.  All veteranarian services in every branch are covered by Army vets and techs.  It is far easier to be placed at a base closer to your guy with a job like that than most other jobs.  Just be sure it is a job you want. 
    I still think that a job with the Reserves or the National Guard would be best for you to look into.  You can also look into an active job with either of those.  Yes, they still deploy.  Down time is a bit longer than active units.  My unit had a 3 year rotation, though you can be pulled into another unit to deploy.  It varies depending on the unit's mission.  I was an MP. 
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