Dilemma... Any advice appreciated

Re: Dilemma... Any advice appreciated

• cgyvhu member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  My wedding will be at the golf club in April 2012.  It is a pricey venue, but I LOVE it.

  
  

  Will you lose the deposit with the photobooth and photographer if you switch dates? Are there any dates left where you can get all three (photog/booth/venue)?  Have you seen the golf club in person yet? And do you know it can accommodate your wedding (size, etc)?

  
  

  First, I'd look at how much money you could lose by switching the venues/photographers/photobooths, and the cost of the golf club, and see if it puts you in budget or not.  If it puts you over budget, then I'd stick with the original choice.  If not, I'd make sure to meet with Karen in person at the Golf club and see it in person - then you can really know if you like it or not for your wedding.

  
  

  If you love the club after seeing it, are under budget, and you can get all three vendors lined up on the same date, then I'd switch everything over.

  
  

  What is your original venue? 

  
  

  
  

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• Y I Oughta member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-pittsburgh_dilemma-advice-appreciated?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:116Discussion:07ec1c26-2822-4dc0-a0a3-b1ff3bc58c4bPost:e81333d9-5607-470d-a54b-22d6999d531e">Dilemma... Any advice appreciated</a>:
  [QUOTE]So my weekend has been pretty rough - I know you guys aren't on here much on the weekend but I could use some advice/support. FI is in Oregon for the next 10 days. I went to the bridal show my reception venue was hosting last night with my mom, sister and FMIL, FSIL. Thing is, I had total second thoughts about the venue.<strong> I haven't signed the contract but I did give $1000 to hold the date</strong>. We really didn't like any other venues that we looked at but today online I came across Pittsburgh Golf Club and really liked it. Next dilemma,<strong> they don't have our initial date available</strong>. Just not really sure what to do. Miss my FI and worried that I have the wrong reception venue but not sure about changing everything not to mention our photog and photobooth are reserved for our initial date which could mean more complciations. Help?! 
  Posted by lindsayzeleznik[/QUOTE]
  
  If you gave them a deposit you should have a contract. If they cashed your check they should have saved your date. You need to talk to them about this immediately and find out why they didn't hold your date. If they don't have a date available that works for your other vendors you should ask for your money back. They can't take your deposit, tell you it's non-refundable, but not follow through on their end or give you something in writing. Did they tell you your date was available when you placed the deposit? Good luck

  

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• carcrashheart member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-pittsburgh_dilemma-advice-appreciated?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:116Discussion:07ec1c26-2822-4dc0-a0a3-b1ff3bc58c4bPost:a5281809-e722-4e15-8cf0-fec80298a2c9">Re: Dilemma... Any advice appreciated</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Dilemma... Any advice appreciated : If you gave them a deposit you should have a contract. If they cashed your check they should have saved your date. You need to talk to them about this immediately and find out why they didn't hold your date. If they don't have a date available that works for your other vendors you should ask for your money back. They can't take your deposit, tell you it's non-refundable, but not follow through on their end or give you something in writing. Did they tell you your date was available when you placed the deposit? Good luck
  Posted by Y I Oughta[/QUOTE]
  
  i *think* what she is saying is that the new venue she is considering does not have their initial date. meaning, if they were to change venues it would also mean changing the wedding date.
  
  i agree with pp-if you gave them $$ to hold the date then how is there not a contract? money is exchanged when a contract is signed. if you somehow managed to not sign a contract, then i would act fast: check to see if the photog & photobox are available on the potential new date, go see the new venue in person and make sure that it is within budget (since, as pp mentioned, the venue is pricier). if those things all work out, then i don't see any reason not to change the date & venue. you're still a good 6 months from sending STD's, so you can move things around however you see fit.

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• lindsayzeleznik

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  Thanks for responding.
  
  I mailed a check to Edgewood Country Club to hold the date and the planner there sent me a contract about a week later which I have not signed yet. It says the deposit is non-refundable. Do you think it would be reasonable to ask for at least part of the deposit back since I never signed anything?
  
  I emailed Karen a few times today and I think I will go to see the venue on Tuesday afternoon if I can get someone to cover my call at the hospital. Unfortunately FI will still be away so I will have to go myself. If I really like it I will call our photog and photobooth and see if it's possible to change the dates on those contracts.
  
  In terms of budget, I think the venues are about the same actually. More expensive in some areas and less in others so that's not a deal breaker.
  

  

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• concerto47 member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  I had my reception at ECC and we absolutely loved it. Dennis was very flexible and easy to work with and he accomodated many of my non-traditional requests. What is it about the venue that is giving you second thoughts?

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• LilyWater09 member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  Did you visit the venue before you booked it?  That being said, if someplace cashed your check you will be hard pressed to get it back UNLESS you can find another bride to take your date - negotiate with the venue on this.  The Pittsburgh Bridal Show is coming up on March 20th which is a big advertising day for the venues.  If your date is popular having another bride take it may be very easy. 
  
  That being said, maybe you need to take a look at yourself.  Are you just being a nervous bride and are you one to second guess alot of big decisions?  If you already saw the reception before booking and saw it a second time, take the time to reflect on why you liked it before and why you don't so much now - how much influence did any picky/opinionated people in your party have over you?  Are your concerns major (i.e. dirty, out-dated, bad food) or minor?  Keep in mind too you were there for an open house - maybe the set-up wasn't how the venue would look for a wedding.
  
  Good Luck - Keep Sane - We are all here to support you

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