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NWR: Addressing outside of church

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We went to a music concert my RCIA sponser and her family were hosting Saturday. Father Piotr and Deacon Albert were both there.
FH asked me a question I wasn't sure the answer to.
We both know outside of the church we still call him Father Piotr. Do we still refer to Albert as Deacon? I ran into him in the street yesterday as well and wasn't sure.
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Re: NWR: Addressing outside of church

  • agapecarrieagapecarrie member
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    edited December 2011
    Deacon isn't a title the same as Father. I call all the deacons I know by their first name (because I know them that well), and they are still "mr." Just like "Dr.s" are no longer "Mr.s", so are Fathers when they are ordained, but deacons still are.

    However, if you were to call them "Deacon Albert" or whatever, it isn't insulting or incorrect.
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  • bibliophile2010bibliophile2010 member
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    I would still call him Deacon Albert, if that's how you normally refer to him. Give him or your relationship the opportunity to direct the use of the more casual, title-less form.

    If you ran into your third grade teacher at the grocery store, you would call her Mrs. Jones unless you had another relationship with her that allowed you to call her Mary. I see it the same way.
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  • mcdol3mcdol3
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks! I don't know him really well, but my sponsor does so I'm never sure. She always just calls him Albert but they've known each other a long time.
    that helps!
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  • Calypso1977Calypso1977 member
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    im with biblio.  i would call him deacon albert.  he may very well say, hey, call me albert outside of church.  but he also might not.
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  • Hope61Hope61 member
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    edited December 2011
    I call my deacon Deacon Trevor.
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  • Equine OsmosisEquine Osmosis member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_nwr-addressing-outside-of-church?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:615Discussion:cbd00fe9-019a-4477-988a-f20a51f4f051Post:c5c144d8-88d7-47fe-8dd4-64b7cafe84d5">Re: NWR: Addressing outside of church</a>:
    [QUOTE]im with biblio.  i would call him deacon albert. <strong> he may very well say, hey, call me albert outside of church.  but he also might not.</strong>
    Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>This.  I've always found it easiest and most polite to stick with the formal title you know and use and then allow the other person to decide if they want to go casual.  That way the other person is impressed with your respectfulness and never insulted.  It may be surprising who decides to correct you with the casual title and who does not.</div>
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