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Pregnant Bridesmaid

FLBucki3FLBucki3
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One of my closest cousins, who is also a bridesmaid in my wedding informed my FI and I this week that she is pregnant! (WOOP WOOP! so excited for a lil baby!!! :) ) but, she also informed us she is due shortly after our wedding, and will be unable to be apart of our big day (as the doctor won't let her travel that close to the birth and we're getting married out of our state we live in near her). How can I keep her involved and apart of our big day and still feel apart of the wedding party, as I don't want her to feel left out (as I know she was already upset about not being in the wedding party on our day) any suggestions? :)

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  • pkontkpkontk member
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    Just keep her in the loop.  Keep her copied on bridesmaid dress emails, be sure to let whoever plans a shower or bachelorette know to invite her, if those events happen.
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  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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    Keep her in the program as well.  And send her a copy of the program after the wedding, so she knows she was thought of as a BM still, even though she couldn't attend.

    And try to set up the webcam as suggested by PP.
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    I think she will tell you how involved she wants to be, or will ask you about stuff if she wants.
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  • gananoquegananoque
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    I fully agree with mbcdefg.

    Let your friend take the lead. Whenever I'm interested in hearing about a bride's planning details, I ask. She'll do the same. It will be clear soon enough how much she does or doesn't want to hear about every little detail of your wedding planning.
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  • LeguLegu member
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    Show her this? Explain to her that you'd still like her to be as included as she'd like, and ask her what that is. I'm sure between the two of you you'd come up with some great ideas for her to still be involved.
    So, maybe things don't always go as planned... Maybe that's okay. I may be alone for now, but my baby boy is on his way, and I wouldn't change a thing.
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  • JaxInBlueJaxInBlue member
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    Definitely ask her.  Depending on when your shower and bachelorette parties are, she might still not be able to travel.  Keep her in the program and if you want to, think about ways she can skype/webstream/live chat into some portion of your ceremony or reception.  I like the idea of sending her some flowers - maybe similar to what you will be using in your bouquets - the day before your wedding or the day of, with a note letting her know you're thinking of her.

    My BIL who was one of FI's groomsmen couldn't travel to our wedding (he's military) so we sent him his gift, a program and a favor after the wedding.
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  • Habs2HartHabs2Hart member
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    One of my best friends gave birth the night before our wedding.  I talked to her while I was getting ready (which my MUA was thrilled about, since I became a big blubbery mess), took pictures of me with her bouquet and then stopped in the next morning to meet her new son and give her her bouquet and her bridesmaid gift.  She was in the program and my brother (the MC) announced that she was not in attendance because she had just given birth.  She got a HUGE round of applause. 

    I missed her so much.  To this day, I am so sad she wasn't there, but we made the best of what it was.  It would be great if you could stream it for her. 

    Since she's out of town I would have her in the program (if you are having one), have her announced with the bridal party (if you are doing that) and send her flowers, possibly the same as the BM flowers and still get her a gift. 
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  • FLBucki3FLBucki3
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    thanks everyone! We're trying to figure out how to "live stream" the actual wedding in church-and though of Facetime-since she has an Iphone as do numerous people in attendance of the wedding. The program and flowers ideas are great!! :)
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