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Just Engaged and Proposals

My not-completely-typical, no ring engagement story...long!

I'm not sure if I'm the type to get really involved in these boards, but for some reason I'm feeling very happy and lovey-dovey and in the mood to share...

When I met my finance I think we both knew from the start that we were the ones for each other...yes, we are one of those "when you know, you know" couples.  We began discussing marriage and quickly revealed our desires to marry one another.  On more than a few occassions he's randomly gotten down on one knew and "popped the question" - in the shower, middle of a hike, etc.  Of course it's always a yes from me!

My fiance is very into creative, unique, and handcrafted things and just isn't comfortble picking out a ring from a store - though I always explain I'd say yes a hundred times over for something as small as a ring pop!  Awhile ago we/he began the process of having a ring designed and made for me.  This is, I am learning, a very long process going the route he's picked.  At first I didn't consider myself engaged nor did I want to share me happiness or story without a ring (silly me).  Well, unbeknowst to me, one day when he was alone with my parents he opened the topic, asked for their support and explained our intentions.  They were thrilled! And I came home to a mother already surfing the 'net looking for dresses she thinks I'd look great in and a father who had created a budget spredsheet of what they could/would pay for (I consider myself more than a little blessed).  I quickly realized that the ring is in no way required to feel engaged!

I also couldn't hold my secret any longer.  The first chance we could get all of my family together we made our announcement.  We've each told our individual groups of friends and then a couple weeks later I did that whole facebook status change thing.  The outpouring of support and joy for us has been so awesome.  And only a few people went right to inquiring about a ring...which actually gave me the fun chance to brag about my guy and the effort he wants to put in for me (yeah yeah, shallow I know).  

As it gets closer to ring time I am getting fewer details so that there is some surprise involved.  And, based on whispers, secrecy, and flat-out taunts I know that I am getting some sort of special something for the presentation of the final product.  All I know is that it will be sometime in the next several weeks - I'm a high school teacher and go back August 1 and been told I'll go back to school with my beautiful sapphire ring on.  I CAN'T WAIT!

I've never been a traditional girl who takes the traditional route, and I'm actually thrilled my engagement story is a bit different...heck, I'm still getting proposed to all the time in many different and adorable ways...what fun!  Thus far being engaged is mostly fun.  I'm sure stress will come (I know it), but now it's just thinking about the great wedding day we'll be having, planning a kick-ass honeymoon, sharing it all with loved ones, and most importantly basking in the joy of finding the person we want to commit a lifetime to! 

So there I am, a 32 year old "girl" who never thought she'd fine a good one and I found the best one (for me)!

Re: My not-completely-typical, no ring engagement story...long!

  • awwwwwww, I think it's soooooooo sweet!! congratulations!! :)
  • EC88EC88 member
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    Congrats! It sounds like a great relationship and makes for a great story. I'm sure your ring will be beautiful.
  • dewingedpixiedewingedpixie member
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    edited June 2012
    Congratulations! I'm in the same exact boat as you! We have informed our closest family and friends but we're going to wait till he gets to do his presentation to tell everyone else.

    Fiance and I ment 2 years ago and I immediatly knew. We decided a few months back we are getting married. We've now set a date, and picked a location. I've bought my dress.

    I'm so very excited and cant wait to share with everyone the news. I am so excited to spend the rest of my life with my best friend.

    As to my ring its from a custom ring company, and we bought a stone in february. My fiance sent it about 4 weeks back to be set when the company asked for it. We had a snafu when we found a flaw was actually a fracture. It broke my heart. We had to pick a new stone for my ring which was tough since we picked the first together. Now he has the final info and I havent seen it. We have a sapphire too :). What color sapphire did you go with?
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  • Thanks for all the well wishes!

    Mine is Ceylon blue and will be cushion cut with a pave halo and paves along the split shank.  The stone is actually being cut by one person before the setting is made by another.  The gemcutter bought the stone from a source in Colombo, Sri Lanka so it is a true Ceylon sapphire.  I've seen pics of it pre cutting and I know it's going to look great!  I'm very excited because the ring is really perfect for not just my style, but also his.
  • That is the cutest story I've ever heard!  I'm also super glad to know my FI isn't the only one who asked more than once (and in random places too!).  That's the kind of story your kids will love to hear and you'll love telling everyone who asks.  Also your ring sounds beautiful!  You should post pictures when you finally get it.
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  • Great story! Congrats on your non typical engagement! ;)

    My engagement also was a no ring-er lol. We were on vacation with the in-laws and while we watched the awesome interaction we had together and with the family we just knew it was time to announce what we had talked about before (our wishes to get married). We announced it over dinner with an ocean view and my in-laws cried!!! There was no ring or down on one knee thing, but I wouldnt change it for the world!! 6 months later my fiance popped the question (again lol, this time with a ring) by posting our timeline together in pictures all over our apartment! :)
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  • eguz - that's adorable!  I might steal your idea as something to do for him during our engagement...I think guys get shafted in the fun department in these things sometimes, so I'm trying to spoil him and suprise him a bit.

    I can't wait to see how my fiance actually handles the ring presentation.  I am pretty damn sure it will be awesome though.  One of the best things he's done during this engagement period is send me this series of vintage postcards he found at an antique store when out of town for work.  I've recieved seven in the mail so far, all with cute little messages or items on the back that pertain to our relationship/engagement/marriage.  One was a hangman game that was solved with "Will you marry me?"  One was a drawing of the engagement ring being made.  Another simply said "Maktub" on the back, a quote from one of my favorites books that in the story means "it is written".  

    Sorry if it seems like I am blatantly bragging about my fiance, but I also want to give him credit for being such a great man.  I've had a lot of experiences with the other type and it's so refreshing!
  • JaniV123JaniV123 member
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    edited June 2012
    i have no ring yet either! so congrats!

    i love this feeling, although we are waiting until 2015 to get married (for career reasons, both of us graduating and getting steady jobs).

    for the past 3 months we hadn't told anyone, i just toldmy closest friends. 3 weeks ago he told his best friend, and yesterday he told me he told his parents! 

    we are so happy and we cant wait!

    we were also one of those "when you know, you know" 

    ETA: he also has proposed several times before so i guess we are lucky gals to have such amazing men


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    [QUOTE]eguz - that's adorable!  I might steal your idea as something to do for him during our engagement...I think guys get shafted in the fun department in these things sometimes, so I'm trying to spoil him and suprise him a bit. I can't wait to see how my fiance actually handles the ring presentation.  I am pretty damn sure it will be awesome though.  One of the best things he's done during this engagement period is send me this series of vintage postcards he found at an antique store when out of town for work.  I've recieved seven in the mail so far, all with cute little messages or items on the back that pertain to our relationship/engagement/marriage.  One was a hangman game that was solved with "Will you marry me?"  One was a drawing of the engagement ring being made.  Another simply said "Maktub" on the back, a quote from one of my favorites books that in the story means "it is written".   Sorry if it seems like I am blatantly bragging about my fiance, but I also want to give him credit for being such a great man.  I've had a lot of experiences with the other type and it's so refreshing!
    Posted by Elizabeth&PatrickL[/QUOTE]

    Thanks! My fiance is also a great man! As you can see.
    Its perfectly fine to brag about your fiance! If you didnt I would worry lol ;)
    Good luck with the timeline if you decide to do it! :)
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