to November 24, 2012.
A series of events last night lead to this - No, it's not a shotgun wedding lol
But I was venting over WR stuff and told FI that we should just scrap this May wedding and elope Labor Day weekend lol Of course he said no because he knows that it's not what I really want yada yada yada.
But then it really got me thinking. The only reason we decided on our date is because everything with our house was up in the air. We didn't know what to expect or anything and we did not want to be married and not living on our own.
We close on our house this Friday.
So I suggested to FI that we move it closer. And we have it immediate family only. The current wedding we are planning is killing us financially - well, not yet, but as soon as we have or mortgage, it really will (I was trying to get as much paid off as possible before the house).
The only thing we are really paying a nice penny for (by choice) is the photographer. Otherwise we have the cheapest DJ; reception hall is dead cheap (13.95 a head - but they do have delicious food! But that also means our guests will not have much choice in what they eat which I don't like).
Our guest list is what is really breaking our budget. 156 people (not including the 11 children under 5). We have already cut so much family out, and we're at the point where we really can't do any more without potentially causing issues.
So by doing something with the immediate family only, we're saving thousands of dollars, and while some may still have an issue with not being invited, they can't really say much about if it were immediate family only. I know a handful of FI's family will have something to say about it (but they do about everything and anything), but in the larger picture, it'll be for the best.
Since deciding this, FI and I both feel happier. We won't spend the next 9 months bickering over money (who wants to start a marriage off like that?). If something goes wrong with the house, it won't be so catastrophic since we'll have that extra money (as we don't have to have to dig into savings unless absolutely necessary). We can start fixing up our house this fall rather than next summer (it needs a lot of work!).
If everything goes accordingly, we'll have a small ceremony with family - I'm still wearing my dress, our WP is remaining the same. It's just smaller and at a different location. We'll probably go to a nice restaraunt afterwards - my mom tried to tell me that everyone can pay for their own - I quickly nipped that and told her FI and I will be paying. It's nice, and intimate.
I feel more comfortable being up there, saying my vows in front immediate family rather than over 150 people where I don't know at least 50% of them. I've been feeling very anxious about that walk down the aisle with all those people. Now I feel like a huge weight has been lifted.
If this works out, it gives us about 3 months and 1 week (yes, I already checked lol).
I only mentioned this to my mom as of yet - just put the idea by her (I figured she'd be the most skeptical lol).
We're going to try and get ahold of our Officiant about the potential date change. Hopefully we'll hear something before Friday. And if we get the green light, we'll discuss with his family during dinner Friday night. From there he needs to talk to his brother who lives in TX to see if this would even work for them.. Then I'll mention it to my dad and brother (and SIL). I'd like to know for sure by the end of next week so we can get everything else ironed out (or continue on as we are).
The reason for Nov 24 is that 1) I'll have my dress (as will FSILs). 2) While not a ton of notice, it'll give FBIL some notice if he will be able to make it out. 3) Since my family will be here for Thanksgiving, they'll probably just stay for a couple of days until the wedding.
Gah, sorry for the novel. FI and I really excited about this possible date change and hoping that it works out.
