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who gives a speech and when???

Alyjane9Alyjane9
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I know my dad wants to say something at the wedding, but that's all I know so far. Both sets of parents are divorced, so I figured we'd just ask each of them if they want to say anything, along with the best man and maid of honour. Is that correct? If all four speak, I know we'll have to keep them all short.

Also, should the speeches all be together? I was thinking of having them either during the meal or during dessert so people aren't sitting around hungry. :)

Any input would be great!

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Re: who gives a speech and when???

  • cschuma2cschuma2 member
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    edited April 2011
    You don't ask anyone to make a toast or give a speech.  This is not required and only happens if someone wants to.  Anyone that wants to (that you are comfortable with) make a toast can.  At our reception, we only had DH's oldest brother (a GM) make a toast.  We did this during dinner.

    If you have that many people that want mic time, I would definitely tell them to keep it short and sweet.  Many of your guests will find this part of the night boring.  I would keep it together and do them during dinner.  Nobody will want to stop partying to listen to this later.  It is also less likely that anyone holding the mic will be too intoxicated to say something reasonable.  :)  Good luck.
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    Ditto pp.

    Anyone can give a speech. Traditionally the MOH and the BM speak at the reception, but they are not required to. If your Dad wants to say something, too, that is perfectly fine. Or he could say something at the RD if you are having one. That way it would be more intimate and just immediate family and friends. Either way is fine, though.
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  • Cynthia1207Cynthia1207 member
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    Traditionally it's usually the MOH and Best Man, after cocktail hour but before the first course is served.  Fathers can give a speech as well but it isn't required (of anybody I should add).  Bride and Groom give a thank you speech after dessert.
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  • mandi921vhmandi921vh member
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    Speeches are not required at weddings, people may offer to give one, but as the bride and groom you shouldn't be asking people to give a speech. 
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  • TurtlesAllTheWayDownTurtlesAllTheWayDown member
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    Are you having a DJ? We knew at least 2 people who told us they wanted to speak. We had the DJ simply ask who wanted to speak and hand over the microphone. We had 4 people speak - a friend who witnessed our engagement, a BM, a GM and the FOG. Had the speeches gone on longer, we would have motioned for the DJ to close the floor.
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  • Alyjane9Alyjane9
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    thanks everyone! We weren't really going to ask anybody to speak, just see if they wanted to/were planning to so we had an idea what would be going on. :)
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