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Invites and children

1moreJohnson2be1moreJohnson2be
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I'm in a bit of a pickle. I have a child. My niece and nephew are in my bridal party. And I have an out of state friend who was raised like a sister (her mother is hosting my showers and she is the godmother of my child) so she cannot come unless Ashe brings her child, as all her options for sitters will be at my wedding and she can't very well leave him in another state. Also, my son's best friend is coming to act as a buffer to my son to keep him in line, and his mother is a very dear friend of mine. This is otherwise not a child friendly venue to have ample children running about. I have sent save the dates to my ther friends with kids and addressed them to the parents only. It is now time for invites and I had a few friends mention bringing their kids. I have sort of skirted the issue, which I am now regretting. How do I word the invites so they understand? I know you can't have some kids but not all kids, so I'm feeling like a huge jerk right now. But the only kids who have been formally invited are basically family. And if everyone invited brings theirs kids we're looking at 90 adults and close to 50 kids. That's right..... 50. How do I word this or do I have to invite everyone AND everyone's kids since there were a select few kids that are necessary fixtures at the wedding?
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  • mlg78mlg78 member
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    Just put Mr & Mrs. John Doe and don't list Bobby, Susie and Mary on the invite.  This may not be taken kindly though.  Have you considered making a sitter available?  Or it sounds like more than one would be needed. :)
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  • 1moreJohnson2be1moreJohnson2be
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    I handled the Save the Dates with proper protocol, but people aren't getting it. And I have read that once you invite one child that etiquette says you must invite them all. I am feeling very confused by the etiquette here. Is it okay to have children of family who could otherwise not attend a child free wedding, and draw the line there? Or am I going to be a big fat bridezilla for saying folks can't bring there kids even though there are a select few (and by few I mean 5, most of which are family) children that are necessary parts of the wedding?
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    No, you don't have to invite all or none.  It does make sense to invite children in circles though.
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  • NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
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    You don't have to have extra children there if you do not want them. Address the invitations only to the adults. It's nobody's business to ask, but if they do, explain that it's family, plus one buffer kid plus one from out of town. If they insist, just say that you're sorry. If they RSVP with the kids, call and explain the misunderstanding. If they hold it over your head that they won't come without the children, just say you'll truly miss them.
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