Ok.. before I begin I want to ask that if you have anything super negative to say please don't post. I do want realistic answers but please do it in a nice way
I've never started a thread because I see how mean people can get
we're all on this website for a reason: weddings, which is such a happy occasion!
I'm getting off my soapbox now...
My FI let it slip the other night that his parents aren't too thrilled about paying for non-wedding party guests at the RD. A little background here... FI's parents offered to pay for 4 huge things: Flowers, RD, Open Bar at reception (we're serving beer and wine), and plane tickets for our honeymoon. We didn't ask them for any of this; they very generously offered. His mom told me over and over again to do anything I wanted to do since it's our wedding and we'll only be doing it once. I asked her multiple times for a budget and she told me, "When you reach a million dollars, stop." Obviously she wasn't being serious and while they aren't super rich they do have money (whether they have $ or not is not something I worry about, just setting the stage for the story - just wanted to cover it since I know someone will bring it up). I kept everything at a very reasonable cost, even bringing the floral bill down as much as possible. I didn't want her to think I was taking advantage of her generosity.
So onto the RD. There will be a total of 34 adults and 4 small children. Out of the 34, 8 of these people are non-wedding party. 2 of them are the parents of the flower girl who is 3 1/2 and they obviously need to accompany her. The other is my MOH's (my sister) husband who we've named the Guest of Honor at our wedding for serving 3 tours overseas in the military - and he's just an awesome guy! The remaining 5 are significant others/spouses of those in the wedding party and all but one is traveling. I'd hate to think about those people sitting in a hotel room alone while we're out having a nice dinner together. I don't think 8 out of all those people is too terrible of a number but I guess his parent's are a bit upset. My problem is that they had the attitude of "do whatever you want and we'll take care of it" and now they're upset. It just doesn't make sense and now I feel terrible
I never did go overboard with anything so I'm just a bit miffed with the RD issue. Also, if they were really this upset shouldn't they have come to me and told me to keep the significant others/spouses out of the dinner?
Also, I've read that RDs are for WP and OOT guests as well. Am I wrong?
PLEASE NOTE: I never expected his parent's to do anything for the wedding and I'm extremely grateful for what they've done. I'm just confused & wish some communication would have taken place and not sure how to handle it from here. Do I say something or leave it alone? Ok.... bracing myself for answers...