I was actually blindsided by a girlfriend who told me I was not going to be her bridesmaid in her wedding because she didn't want to have "too many" (she is having 5). I was REALLY hurt as we have been friends for years and have discussed being in each others wedding parties many times, even up to a few months before she got engaged!
Anyway, she said that she would like me to be involved by handing out programs. She even threw out the idea that I should wear the bridesmaids dress while doing so... DEF not happening.
Anyway, this is at her destination wedding that will cost me and my fiance about $2k to attend. After being told I'm not a bridesmaid, I plan on attending as a guest; I do NOT want a "job" ---- can I tell her that????
(PS I have not actually said "YES I will hand out programs" for those of you who might ask if I already commited. It's just been her talking about it and telling me that I'm going to, while I just basically stare because I'm still in disbelief over the whole thing)!