let me start by saying, i have had problems with my FMIL from the start. quick example: while wedding dress shopping, she couldnt be there, so i was snapping pics and texting them to her as i tried on dresses. the only thing she said was, 'you look so fat in those pictures.' i'm a 5'11 curvy size ten. so yea, our problems started fairly early.
we are getting close to the day, about 4 months to go, and we've started planning extra activities for our guests, since most will be from out of town, we want to show them around a great city and have some fun. the wedding is on a saturday, obviously night before is rehearsal and dinner, and thursday night my mom offered to host a little wine and hordeurves party, so the two families can all get together for a few hours and meet each other. i was also planning the brunch for the day after the wedding, a sort of 'this is where we will be for brunch, come join us if you can!' thing.
after i started talking about the brunch, i found out my FMIL had already planned one, which was great, until she told me that she expected us there, and it was ONLY for her side (FI's side) of the family. not mine. i find this so incredibly rude, and it ruined our plans for the family brunch. when FI tried to talk to her about it, she made a big show and started crying. i really don't know how to approach this.
what would you do? please help me!
she has also offered to take care of the rehearsal dinner. i've made the calls around and found a few spots around town that would be good and that host large parties, and got her the info for each and prices and whatnot. but with only a few months to go, she hasn't made a single phone call or any sort of progress in getting plans started. how long do i give her until FI and i take it over ourselves?