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To ask or not......

BOOMER2012BOOMER2012 member
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I am a recent breast cancer survivor and my wedding dress is pink :) My wedding is in may and I am afraid a lot of my guests will want to wear pink to support me, which I appreciate. But I also want to be the only one in pink. Is it wrong for me to ask that pink be reserved for the bridal party only? Or am I over exaggerating and should not worry,lol.
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  • ahhhitsshannynahhhitsshannyn member
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    edited February 2012

    I think if your invitations and such are pink people may get the hint. But you shouldn't worry about it too much. It would be rude to dictate what people cannot wear.

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  • MyUserName1MyUserName1 member
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    The only think i can think of that you could do that wouldn't be rude is tell the family blabbermouth that you're wearing pink (but not that you don't want others to wear pink).  She might tell everyone else, and I know that I wouldn't wear pink to a wedding if i knew the bride was.
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  • CAB1217CAB1217
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    Guests will (usually) stay away from the wedding's color scheme. At least in my experience, they have. I wouldn't worry too much about it. You can't really say that to your guest and NOT look like you're being rude, unfortunately.

    Also, I think it's awesome that you'll be wearing a pink wedding dress!
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  • froggatt.clarefroggatt.clare
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ask-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:31330df3-c6a0-4595-860e-d4b4e8ef7fa1Post:d069a788-76e3-4985-aae9-803aefd275a4">Re: To ask or not......</a>:
    [QUOTE]The only think i can think of that you could do that wouldn't be rude is tell the family blabbermouth that you're wearing pink (but not that you don't want others to wear pink).  She might tell everyone else, and I know that I wouldn't wear pink to a wedding if i knew the bride was.
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    YES MUNI, ditto!  And congratulations on being a survivor, that is fabulous!
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  • ginadogginadog member
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    I am thinking about the scenario where someone does show up in all pink (I think it'd be rare).  I'm sure you'll still outshine them in a fully pink wedding gown!  Would it really be that bad though? 
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  • mari0225mari0225
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ask-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:31330df3-c6a0-4595-860e-d4b4e8ef7fa1Post:d069a788-76e3-4985-aae9-803aefd275a4">Re: To ask or not......</a>:
    [QUOTE]The only think i can think of that you could do that wouldn't be rude is tell the family blabbermouth that you're wearing pink (but not that you don't want others to wear pink).  She might tell everyone else, and I know that I wouldn't wear pink to a wedding if i knew the bride was.
    Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

    I think that's a great idea.

    Also congrats on surviving breast cancer, that is awesome!
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  • sharp0099sharp0099 member
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    Congratulations on being a survior! 

    Great advice, especially about letting people know by word of mouth that you're going to wear a pink wedding dress.  If women know this they're are not likely to wear a pink dress.  But if someone does, it won't be a wedding gown so you'll totally outshine them. :)
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  • chumlee7478chumlee7478
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    Congrats on being a survivor! I think the pink dress is amazing! Such a beautiful way to celebrate!

    If I saw the color on the invites, other items for the wedding, etc, I'd stay away from that color.  That might just be me as a guest, but once I see the color scheme, I shy away from whatever those colors are.  If I think the bridesmaids might wear blue based on a blue invite,  I'll wear a different color, etc. 

    Congrats again, from the daughter of a survivor.  Enjoy your wedding!!!!!
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  • mkruparmkrupar member
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    I don't know how often I'm aware of the color scheme prior to a wedding. I guess the invitations would give me a hint, but most of them are black and white.

    I agree with MUN about telling the family blabbermouth. Other than that you can't do anything.

    Congrats on being a survivor!
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  • mkruparmkrupar member
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    PS: I would love to see a pic of your pink wedding dress!
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  • traybay88traybay88
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    I watched a TLC - whose wedding is it anyway on a destination wedding (a long time ago) but the BRIDE requested that on the night of their wedding EVERYONE wear white... Now, this was because she was wearing a Red dress and wanted to be a show stopper... they way they worded it sounded okay, but now that i am writing this and thinking about it... DO NOT do that.. Don't think it sounds good no matter how you put it. Tell the family blabber mouth! :)

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  • Sydney91Sydney91 member
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    Take it as an honour that they are celebrating you since you cannot dictate what your guests wear. 
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