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People need to read etiquette books.

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I am having guest issues already.. and invites aren't going out anytime soon!

One girl had the audacity to inform me she was bringing her boyfriend. Ordinarily that would be ok, but 1. I didn't even know she had one, 2. she hasn't been dating him long, 3. we just don't have the room for everybody to bring guests, and 4. she will know a lot of people there because her entire family is going as well. I emailed her back explaining our venue constraints.

Then another guy who is the ex-fiance of one of my bridesmaids thinks he's coming, with his new girlfriend. I also responded to his email with a reply about guest list constraints. 

This makes me wonder what people will have to say when they find out that kids aren't invited :o)

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  • dapo2004dapo2004
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    edited December 2011
    Yeah, I'm in a similar situation, and a lot of people are assuming they are invited but they aren't. It's nothing personal... we're having a really small wedding and funding it ourselves... so we're only inviting those that we are actually close with. As a result, we decided not to invite my cousins because I have never really been close with them. 

    My brother's girlfriend is friends with one of my cousins and apparently she was talking to the cousin about hotel arrangements for the weekend of the wedding and my cousin said, "I'm not sure I'm invited, I didn't receive a save the date or invitation or anything." In response, my brother's girlfriend said "Of course you're invited... YOU'RE FAMILY."

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  • akg0053akg0053 member
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    edited December 2011
    Cute! A guest inviting another guest! I love those. 

    Geeze. 
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  • reddie36reddie36
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    edited December 2011
    So far (knock on wood!) we've luckily avoided all the guest invited guests & add-on's to the RSVP cards but I am amazed by the audacity of people (some of whom I barely know) who ask if they are invited to, or if you could invite them to, the wedding...really? If you have to ask then you prooooobably know the answer. Just sayin!
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  • kelseymwkelseymw
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-austin_people-need-read-etiquette-books?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:126Discussion:9d7558e3-de0a-48ee-a1b7-84e02e9856f3Post:6bd2c2b8-7aa7-4592-9b31-257e12f98f02">Re: People need to read etiquette books.</a>:
    [QUOTE]So far (knock on wood!) we've luckily avoided all the guest invited guests & add-on's to the RSVP cards but I am amazed by the audacity of people (some of whom I barely know) who ask if they are invited to, or if you could invite them to, the wedding...really? <strong>If you have to ask then you prooooobably know the answer. Just sayin!</strong>
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    </div><div>Hahaha, this! I know, right? I've had to tell a few people it's a "family only" wedding due to space constraints because I'm not good at confrontation. When they see the pictures and notice someone isn't family, I'll be in wedded bliss and won't care ;) That's my theory at least... 

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  • akg0053akg0053 member
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    edited December 2011
    And I mean I don't want to be rude or anything, but there really aren't that many people who are able to bring sig. others. My best friend (and one of my maids of honor) is bringing her bf, but we know him well and they have been together for awhile.

    One of my other bridesmaids is able to bring a guest, but that's because she will no nobody else there and that's just flat out awkward.

    It's just so rude to assume people can come. 
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  • B&B1221B&B1221
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    edited December 2011
    Isn't it funny how other people can be out of line in their requests, yet it makes YOU feel awkward or uncomfortable?  I knew someone who was invited to a wedding with A guest, and she RSVP'd plus 4!  Four?! Better still, all 5 of them were no-shows.  Classy!
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  • akg0053akg0053 member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow B&B. That's... awesome. 
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  • abbiewebsterabbiewebster member
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    edited December 2011
    TELL ME ABOUT IT...im getting married in Florida (im from england ) and i still have people inviting themselves...seriously..they are willing to pay 600 dollars for a flight to my wedding, it actually made me feel a little guilty to think they would come all this way and i didnt even think twice about them on my guest list :S....and i also have a friend that wants to bring a group...yes seriously.....the invite says....her + guest, so she asked if she could bring her sister (and her young son) i was fine with that ive met her ..but the she announces shes bringing her boyfriend too( i didnt even know she had a bf) ... some people....sorry that was a little rant but just to let you know you are not alone.
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