38 days...when did you have a freak out moment?

ket25 · July 2012

38 days until our wedding! I feel like I should be freaking out a little or something, but I haven't yet. I had a minor moment right after the invitations went out because my FI forgot oh about 15 people (in addition to our already maxed out list). That was an interesting discussion, but we worked it out. Since then I just feel like I'm waiting and waiting some more for the day to arrive.

When did you start to really feel the pressure?

acaponi87 · July 2012

I freaked out when we had our final numbers for the caterer, sent in the massive final payment and then within 2 days had 6 people tell us they weren't coming anymore.

ket25 · July 2012

I think once we make that final payment to our venue (they're supplying the food, booze and all that) I'll start to worry about people backing out. If they do, they do I guess - and things happen that are out of your control (family emergencies, etc.) I'll deal. I'll probably feel a bit salty about it though...haha.

acaponi87 · July 2012

Yeah only 2 of those people were emergencies---a family friend needed surgery. But I got a lot of "oh well my husband is going to go hunting instead now" or "what? this 3rd person didn't tell you I'm not bringing a date now? Oh sorry" type stuff. It just sucked knowing all that money was pretty much thrown out the window.

Also MIL was a bit anal about seating arrangements so anytime something changed it was a big fiasco.

It's good you haven't had any freak-outs. Don't wait around for 1, just enjoy the process.

azdancer8 · July 2012

I never really had any freakouts. I did get a bit frantic rushing around 2 days before the wedding when my centerpiece flowers came in completely wrong. But my DOC was fantastic and found me the right ones, I just had to go pick them up.

It's ok that you're not freaking out. Hopefully it means your wedding will be mostly stress-free.

baystateapple · July 2012

The day before, I was a wreck. I don't know why, it was just one concern after another. I settled down after the rehearsal and enjoyed the dinner, so I guess that's what was important.

The day of the wedding I was completely calm, except for right after we finished hair and makeup. I told everyone that we had a three-hour break in time between the salon and getting dressed, so I figured that everyone would just go do their own thing, hang out with their husbands or boyfriends, eat lunch, etc. I kept having people come up to me and ask "what are we doing now? Aren't we running late? What's happening?" and I panicked. But it was just one little moment, and that was that.

chelseamb11 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_38-dayswhen-did-you-have-a-freak-out-moment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:432335cd-013e-4769-8c59-87d15f3a5803Post:927df076-1891-4e24-a91f-276774e8c4db">Re: 38 days...when did you have a freak out moment?</a>:
[QUOTE]I freaked out when we had our final numbers for the caterer, sent in the massive final payment and then within 2 days had 6 people tell us they weren't coming anymore.
Posted by acaponi87[/QUOTE]

This. Although it was within 7 days for us. One of which was the day after we sent the final numbers. I wasn't pleased.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · July 2012

Honestly if it hadn't been for my mother I don't think I would have had a freak out moment. Well, I guess that's not true. I was pretty freakful because my wedding dress didn't show up until two and a half weeks before the wedding, lol. But other than that - I didn't care about most stuff. My mom was up my ass about everything. She flipped her schit on me a week out about a cd with music on it that would play while guests were being seated. It was not a big deal. Woman was having a coronary and I literally had to yell at her to stop yelling at me and to just fucking calm her tits down. And then I cried like a psychopath at my desk. At work.

lindseyann410 · July 2012

I was driving to another wedding two weeks before mine, and I discovered that FI hadn't set up the ceremony musician like I had asked him to months before. I cried because I just wanted a simple acoustic guitar, and I didn't really want a CD. FI felt so bad that he spend the rest of the 2 hour drive making phone calls. In the end it worked out, but the musician would have known our music a lot better if he had gotten it earlier.

The day of the rehearsal I was just really tense because little things kept popping up, like we forgot a couple of thank you gifts, I didn't have anything for the ring bearer to carry, etc. Oh, and my mom was stressing me out because she spend the day of the rehearsal and the morning of the wedding looking for a dress for herself. It's not like she didn't have a year and a half to figure that out. That's my mother for you, though.

The day of, I actually felt pretty good because there was nothing else I could do at that point but sit back and enjoy it.

blgrout · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_38-dayswhen-did-you-have-a-freak-out-moment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:432335cd-013e-4769-8c59-87d15f3a5803Post:4c01b766-4681-468e-9a18-5e60c1bf618a">Re: 38 days...when did you have a freak out moment?</a>:
[QUOTE]I think once we make that final payment to our venue (they're supplying the food, booze and all that) I'll start to worry about people backing out. If they do, they do I guess - and things happen that are out of your control (family emergencies, etc.) I'll deal. I'll probably feel a bit salty about it though...haha.
Posted by ket25[/QUOTE]

Yeah, it does kind of suck when people back out. My cousin had roped us into letting her bring her 5 kids to our wedding, and another cousin on my DH's side that wanted to bring her kids, and then at the last minute, they all decided they shouldn't bring their kids to the wedding because they would be bored ( like I had told them when they wanted to bring them in the first place!). So we paid for 7 kids to eat dinner that didn't even come to the wedding. I was annoyed, but whatever. We still had a good time.

As far as freakouts go, the only freak out we had was when Mens Warehouse lost 2 tuxes for our wedding. Not cool. They did manage to piece together 2 tuxes, but they didn't match. It's all good now, but I was a little pissed the day before the wedding and kind of freaked out at the manager of the Portland Men's Warehouse. Oh, and on the day of the wedding when DH left our marriage license in the car and forgot that he had left it in the car, thinking it was at our house. How to freak a bride out: tell her you can't find the marriage license 1 hour before the ceremony.

ElleB87 · July 2012

The only thing that put pressure on H and I during wedding planning was making sure we had saved enough $$$. Every couple weeks I would go over the budget and usually freak out.

There was no stress on the day-of or during our entire trip to Ireland. It actually just hit me on Tuesday that I'm a married lady...and I have been for 7 months. Next weekend in our 3 yr (dating) anniversary and it all blows my mind.

fluttaby32 · July 2012

My only freakout moment was a roadblock due to a minor traffic accident leading to a very inconvenient detour on the way to my venue. It was quite a freakout too.

ket25 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_38-dayswhen-did-you-have-a-freak-out-moment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:432335cd-013e-4769-8c59-87d15f3a5803Post:3c6e7ddb-4d06-4ac2-b83a-abccca84e1ee">Re: 38 days...when did you have a freak out moment?</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah only 2 of those people were emergencies---a family friend needed surgery. But I got a lot of "oh well my husband is going to go hunting instead now" or "what? this 3rd person didn't tell you I'm not bringing a date now? Oh sorry" type stuff. It just sucked knowing all that money was pretty much thrown out the window. Also MIL was a bit anal about seating arrangements so anytime something changed it was a big fiasco. It's good you haven't had any freak-outs. Don't wait around for 1, just enjoy the process.
Posted by acaponi87[/QUOTE]

That really sticks, I'd be pretty irritated if that happened.

Definitely not waiting, but I have a lot of other friends who are getting married this year and around the same time as me who seem to have flipped their lids a little. If I feel like I'm getting stressed about something wedding related - I just walk away from it for awhile.

ket25 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_38-dayswhen-did-you-have-a-freak-out-moment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:432335cd-013e-4769-8c59-87d15f3a5803Post:db9e7b07-392c-42e6-9653-252181dc3971">Re: 38 days...when did you have a freak out moment?</a>:
[QUOTE]Honestly if it hadn't been for my mother I don't think I would have had a freak out moment. Well, I guess that's not true. I was pretty freakful because my wedding dress didn't show up until two and a half weeks before the wedding, lol. But other than that - I didn't care about most stuff. My mom was up my ass about everything. She flipped her schit on me a week out about a cd with music on it that would play while guests were being seated. It was not a big deal. Woman was having a coronary and I literally had to yell at her to stop yelling at me and to just fucking calm her tits down. And then I cried like a psychopath at my desk. At work.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

They really pushed the deadline, for sure. Yikes, but it worked out!

As far as your mom goes, aren't you glad you only get married once?

mrsreedtobe12 · July 2012

My wedding is in 7 days and I am freaking out as we speak! It started about two weeks ago. That's when It became real that I had less than a month to put everything together. I had been wayyy behind and it stressed me out so bad I was forgetting to eat and unable to sleep at night. But with a little help from family and friends I'm back on track, only freaking out a little

Just do what you can now so you aren't swamped the week before your big day! Remember the excitement you feel now when it's 7 days out from your wedding and you feel like throwing in the towel

ket25 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_38-dayswhen-did-you-have-a-freak-out-moment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:432335cd-013e-4769-8c59-87d15f3a5803Post:dac1e774-cc16-47aa-900a-aa4e402d07f7">Re: 38 days...when did you have a freak out moment?</a>:
[QUOTE]My wedding is in 7 days and I am freaking out as we speak! It started about two weeks ago. That's when It became real that I had less than a month to put everything together. I had been wayyy behind and it stressed me out so bad I was forgetting to eat and unable to sleep at night. But with a little help from family and friends I'm back on track, only freaking out a little :) Just do what you can now so you aren't swamped the week before your big day! Remember the excitement you feel now when it's 7 days out from your wedding and you feel like throwing in the towel :)
Posted by mrsreedtobe12[/QUOTE]

Have a wonderful day! Good luck with everything!

bonge · July 2012

I didn't have tons of freakouts which is weird with my a-type personality. So many people told me they couldn't believe how i was handling everything. I had the motto of "nothing is perfect" & when people would tell me something normally upsetting i would repeat that outloud.

I freaked out & bawled when my bro told me he didn't wanna go try on the tuxes because he would rather visit with other ppl instead & did not wanna waste the day in the city (turns out we were back before the people he wanted to visit were, by 3 hours). I told him to flack off (without saying it outright) & to go home. So he did. My mom & my at the time fiance got real mad (they were out when this happened).

My mom sent him a fb message saying he had to go (if he didn't & the suit was ill fitting he was stuck with it, tux shop was 75 mins away) & my H called him, when he called back he just asked him where he wanted to meet us & that was it. I didn't even wanna see him, he knew he had to do this for months & he wanted to bail? It was the one thing they needed to do. Even the Grooms one brother took off work, good thing too but cause for 4/7 ppl they had to change things.

Then i got mad at the tux shop because i made arrangements to get them on thursday 3 different times, once in person, twice on the phone for follow up & all 3 times i was told in front of multiple people that it was fine (i have speakerphone, i always talk on it when dealing with business stuff so my H could hear). Well it was grad week so they decided i was picking them up friday @ 3, when our rehearsal was @ 6:30 2 hours away 9wedding was oot for us, so even further from our home).

They had already sent my dad away so i phoned & told him to come back & we came back a bit later & left with the suits. You don't tell me i can do something and when i go out of my way to do it tell me tough luck. They had em there, just not ready. That probably makes me sound like a bridezilla but i stayed very calm with them, just told em i had to get em now, no chance we could pick them up later.

I had one more moment on the day of because we started @ 8:15, had 6 girls for hair, by noon only 4 had been done, i was supposed to be ready by noon but it was 12:30 & i didn't really like my hair or make up, so i did not feel pretty, did not get many getting ready shots because i rushed into my dress. My mom was a tad upset that she did not get to help me with it, so was i but not much i could do, she was cleaning out our rooms because we had to check out.

My photog said though that he has never in his 20 years seen a groom react the way mine did when he seen me though, so that made me feel good. Also when i watched someone's video of our entrance they said in it that i sure knew how to do it up right (i did every single thing myself, including cook food with help from his mom). The sense of pride i felt was awesome.

My only sadness from the night was that i could not keep my dress on because it was too heavy, i realised later i could have let down the bustle & taken off the crinoline & i would have been fine so that makes me sadder. I was also sick with a cold. It was very hot out, i got a major headache doing pics so cut them short & did not get all the shots iw anted, not even ring ones. Most are with our families, very few with wp but it was still an amazing day. Everyone had a blast, not one issue arose among guests which is nice to see.

Dalrie · July 2012

I had a freakout moment last week. My mom was telling me all of the things I needed to get done and I am running out of time (Wedding in October). Once she left the room I just started crying about the wedding. Once my FI came and picked me up to go out I cried again in the car. Haven't since then. It was just a good time to release all the pressure I guess.

Swindella · July 2012

I never officially freaked out, but I had a freak out moment at the rehearsal when nearly everyone was late and the best man (with another groomsmen in tow) had his car break down an hour away. Then the morning of one of the groomsmen realized he had the wrong color vest! I was so mad but the people from men's wearhouse actually drove 2.5 hours to bring us the right one! Then another a few minutes before walking down the aisle, frantically asking my mom if everything was in order, if the photographer would find the beach etc. Once I started walking down the aisle all my stress melted away. After all the hard work it was finally happening so I just let go of everything I was worried about. It was an amazing day, I couldn't have asked for a better day or a better husband. even now 3 weeks later it still feels like a dream. What I learned was you can't please everyone, so don't try, and no matter what happens, take a deep breath and remember this is your day to marry the man of your dreams and you only get to do it once, so don't let anyone or anything ruin it for you

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