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Second Weddings

Eloping - both 2nd weddings....

Both me and my FI got married pretty young the first time around. We both had decent size weddings then and this time we would rather just elope just the two of us. When we both had our first marriages we were young and knew a lot of different people back then, both lived in diff states, and dont see a lot of those people anymore. Now both of us have a lot of mutual friends from the past few years who didn't know either of us when we were married before. So my FI was saying after we elope we should have a party of some sort when we return and invite all our friends especially bc none of these people knew us during our first marriages. A few of his friends know we are planning on eloping in a few months and have asked about if we are going to have a reception or something. 

My question is I really have no idea about etiquette with this sort of thing...
Is it ok to have a casual party/reception after we get home from eloping? We really don't need any gifts since we both have most things for our home already so we weren't thinking we should do any sort of registry, but I assume some ppl may ask us about gifts so not sure what to do there...

Re: Eloping - both 2nd weddings....

  • MikesAngieMikesAngie member
    1000 Comments Third Anniversary Name Dropper 5 Love Its
    edited December 2011

    Congratulations and welcome!

    I think it's fine to put together a reception/celebration party of your new union and I would even suggest registering because people like to give gifts.

  • edited December 2011
    definately have a reception/get together with your friends to celebrate your new lives together.
  • handfast4mehandfast4me member
    Seventh Anniversary 1000 Comments 5 Love Its
    edited December 2011

    What you're describing is EXACTLY what we did.  We had a "planned elopment" for our legal wedding ceremony, just the two of us, on a beach in Key West, with no guests and no attendants.  It was SOOOOO much more romantic and intimate than my first wedding which was a medium sized one in 1985.  We did register, and we did recieve gifts, so yes, definitely register. 

    We talked about having a party once we got home, but we never got around to it, however. 

    The only thing that I caution you about is just because it's small, doesn't make it stress-free.  The ladies that were on the board  at the time remember my dress issues, etc.  They kept me sane. 

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  • edited December 2011
    Of course you can have a reception to celebrate your new marriage. I wouldn't make any mention of gifts at all on an invitation because it is against etiquette.

    Just use word of mouth to spread the word that you don't want gifts.
    Congrats!!!!
  • 2dBride2dBride member
    2500 Comments Fourth Anniversary 5 Love Its Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    Even Miss Manners says it is ok to have a delayed reception after you elope.  We did something similar.  Because we are a same-sex couple, our wedding had to be in Massachusetts.  However, we had a big reception back in DC a little while later.
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