I am so frustrated right now. After we got engaged, our best man told my fiance that he was going to plan a weekend-long camping trip 'bachelor party' for him.
He told my fiance to request two consecutive weekends off of work so that he could coordinate with the other groomsmen and see which one would be the best. This was hard for my fiance to do (he is a 1st year resident and it's not easy for him to just ask for two weekends in a row off), but he did it. The weekends were next weekend and the one after it.
Well, fast forward to now... My brother mentioned to me that he hadn't heard anything about the bachelor party plans, and assumed that they were just not including him because he doesn't know any of the other groomsmen. I started looking into it, and I found out that no camping trip was ever planned. And at this point, the other groomsmen would not be able to go on such short notice (5 out of the 7 are also doctors and can't just take a weekend off on a whim).
I would have no problem with the best man not hosting a party if he had never offered. What bothers me is the fact that he offered to do this, asked my fiance to take the two weekends off of work, and then just never followed through with it. The worst part is seeing how hurt my fiance is that his best man just blew this off. Apparently, my fiance believed that they were trying to surprise him with the trip by not telling him of any specific details, dates, or activities. When he realized that they actually just never planned it, he was crushed. He's pretty sensitive, and it really hurt his feelings.
It makes me angry, especially because when our best man got married, my fiance took it upon himself to plan an amazing bachelor party for him. The planning took my fiance months.
My parents live on a ranch resort, and when my brother realized that the best man has bailed on the bachelor weekend plans, he offered to take my fiance there, where he can stay in the guest house and my brother will take him shooting, river rafting, and to a nice dinner at the club. It's a nice gesture, and I'm sure my fiance would enjoy it, but it still doesn't make up for the disappointment of his best friend letting him down with this. Doing the camping trip on another weekend is not an option because my fiance does not have any more available weekends between now and the wedding.
It just makes me so mad.