Junior Bridesmaids

nazane · December 2010

How old should girls be before they can become a junior bridesmaid???

squeakyduck · December 2010

It really depends on the individual girl. If you and her mother think that she's old enough, go for it. I'd talk to her parents first and see if they think she's old enough before saying anything to the girl.

lavieboheme73 · December 2010

Traditionally, girls who are too old to be comfortable as a flower girl but too young to be bridesmaids would be put in the junior bridesmaid role, but I'm pretty sure no one's going to card them and say they can't be a junior bridesmaid if they're not in middle school.

If you want a younger girl to be your junior bridesmaid, go for it. There's no set age.

aerinpegadrak · December 2010

The only thing a bridesmaid has to do is get an appropriate dress, walk down the aisle, stand respectfully for the ceremony, and smile for pictures. If she's old enough that she can make it through the ceremony and formal shots without getting fidgety or acting out, she's old enough to be a bridesmaid. I think the "junior" addendum is silly. Would you be referring to the others as "senior" bridesmaids?

bablingbrooke · December 2010

There is no minimum age. Ask them if you want them in the wedding. It's not like there are wedding police roaming the country checking the IDs of WP members

Muffin'sMom · December 2010

I would agree that it depends on the girl. Flower girls just seem to get younger and younger...including some that can neither walk nor toss flower petals!

slave4dance · December 2010

I don't think there is any set age. I was a "junior bridesmaid" when I was 10 and was a 25 year old "flower girl" in my Uncle's Wedding this past november. I wasn't insulted when he asked us to be the flower girls (which is really what we were throwing pedals down the aisle), we were so excited to be a part of his special day. Like the other brides said, if you want her in it, just ask

Good Luck!

trix1223 · December 2010

How old are the girls you have in mind? And ditto aerin. I too had heard the term Jr. Bridesmaid, and didn't really think much about it.

It wasn't until some here pointed out that it's kind of silly to add the descriptor "Jr." to someone who does exactly the same thing as the other BMs. As aeirn said, we don't call the "older" BMs Sr. Bridesmaids. So why add an unneccessary adjective to the younger girls?

deb84 · December 2010

I'm going to respectfully agree to disagree about the jr title. FI and I are having 3 Jrs in our wedding. They are all at or under the age of 13 (which in my personal opinion is the cut off for the "junior" title). But to each their own. If any of my jrs express any sort of opinion against the jr title I would have no problem dropping it and just listing them as bridesmaid or groomsman in the program but I see nothing wrong with the title in general.

(At the time of our wedding they will be 10, 11 and 13.)

lalap69 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_junior-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:06377a1c-5187-4983-916e-3d1198139261Post:166d6ffd-24ca-4f21-855e-170ef840b4a9">Re: Junior Bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm going to respectfully agree to disagree about the jr title. FI and I are having 3 Jrs in our wedding. They are all at or under the age of 13 (which in my personal opinion is the cut off for the "junior" title). But to each their own. If any of my jrs express any sort of opinion against the jr title I would have no problem dropping it and just listing them as bridesmaid or groomsman in the program but I see nothing wrong with the title in general. :/ (At the time of our wedding they will be 10, 11 and 13.)
Posted by deb84[/QUOTE]
You haven't actually said why you disagree, except because you're using it.

What does adding "junior" in front of their title possibly add, value-wise?

As a 13 year old, I would have hated being called junior.

bablingbrooke · December 2010

"Junior" BM is a title created by the wedding industry to make brides think they have to fill more roles and, consequently, spend more money. 5 or 10 years ago, they were just called BMs.

Fact. (You should picture that in my best Dwight Schrute voice.)

zitiqueen · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_junior-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:06377a1c-5187-4983-916e-3d1198139261Post:166d6ffd-24ca-4f21-855e-170ef840b4a9">Re: Junior Bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm going to respectfully agree to disagree about the jr title. FI and I are having 3 Jrs in our wedding. They are all at or under the age of 13 (which in my personal opinion is the cut off for the "junior" title). But to each their own. <strong> If any of my jrs express any sort of opinion against the jr title I would have no problem dropping it and just listing them as bridesmaid or groomsman in the program but I see nothing wrong with the title in general.</strong> :/ (At the time of our wedding they will be 10, 11 and 13.)
Posted by deb84[/QUOTE]

So you're going to list the over-13 BMs as "senior bridesmaids" in your program, right?

Why do they have to complain in order for you to treat them the same as the older girls who will be wearing the exact same dresses and walking down the exact same aisle? Why don't you just do it because it's the decent thing to do? Are you going to have a specially designated junior bridesmaid table at the reception in order to further alienate them from the rest of your wedding party?

seasidebride24 · December 2010

My FI's daughter is 14 years old and she requested the title of Junior Bridesmaid. I initially just asked her to be a Bridesmaid, but asked her if she wanted any special role like doing a reading or holding the rings. She said she wasn't comfortable with speaking in public and she was worried about being in charge of something as important as the rings, but she had a friend who was a Junior Bridesmaid in a wedding and she thought that was good. She liked being set apart from the other BMs with the special title. I guess to each his own!

Kate61487 · January 2011

I agree with PPs that there's no hard rule on ages for FG/Jr/BM. 13 does feel like a decent age to do the cut off, because at that point they're starting to get into the adolescent "I'm a teenager, that means I'm an adult" stuff.

I don't get why people get so bent out of shape about having the jr title. If you don't like it, don't use it. I'm having 3 jrs - ages 8, 9 and 11. They're juniors because they're kids. They get different (age appropriate) dresses, they don't wear high heels, they get smaller bouquets/bouts because they are physically smaller.

I was a BM at 16 and yes, I would have been a little pissed at that age to be a 'jr', but at 10? I would have probably felt out of place to be a BM along side 25 year olds...

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