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Hey ladies! So I was wondering if anyone has gone with their hubby on a TDY and what their experiences were like. FI will most likely have a TDY assignment after he graduates while he waits for a slot to open for BOLC at FT Benning. It will either be in Washington state or Kentucky. Washington is a loooooong way from home, so I know I'd be on my own while he's busy, compared to KY where I have friends and family close by. I think it be neat to explore Washington and see that part of the country while we're there. My question is where would we stay, army lodging or a hotel? Not sure how it all works. I know the army would only pay for him to get there, but if we drive together, it wouldnt make a difference as far as travel allowances. Any input would be appreciated!
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  • TeamBabyTeamBaby
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    Where you would stay depends on the type of training/class he's doing there.  If he gets to stay in a hotel, there's really no reason you couldn't go with him.  Just like you said though, the Army isn't going to reimburse him for any of your expenses (ie food or air travel).  If he gets put up in barracks, then obviously you wouldn't be able to stay with him.  Army lodging is just like a hotel, it wouldn't be an issue for you to be there with him.  He's an officer, so he'll always have his own room.  He should be able to ask someone what type of lodging he'll be in.  That's easy to find out.
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    I've been with my husband on TDY a few times.  He is usually given his own room.  The last time I went was when he had to go to a siminar in Nashville.  The Capt he works with actually asked him to bring me with him.  There were several times we were asked to have dinner with people from the event.  We split our dinner checks most of the time so he was paying for his dinners on his gov't card and my dinners came out of our account.  While he was in his classes and meetings, I explored the area on my own or I found a quiet area on the grounds of the hotel and read a book. 
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    Like the ladies said, it depends on the TDY.  And how long it is, what rank he is, whether he's an Officer or Enlisted, and what the duty station has available.

    My FI is in a similar situation - he's in the Marines, and he's currently finshing up law school.  Once he gets out and takes the bar exam, he'll be waiting to get his results before they'll give him a slot for training.  So he'll be on TDY orders for approximately 5 months, which is extremely common for guys who are in that type of program (JAG, dentist, medical, etc.)

    Will you be engaged when he starts TDY?  Will you get married while he's on TDY?

    When my FI was on TDY orders last summer at Parris Island, he stayed on base at the BOQ (Bachelor Officers Quarters) which is like an extended stay hotel.  It was fine, but I wouldn't want to stay there more than a few weeks max.  The guys who were married were given allowances to rent off base.  Even if he's only going to be there for a few months, you can rent a place because as soon as he gets orders elsewhere, it gives you the right to cancel the lease without penalty.

    If you're married when he starts his TDY, they should give him BAH (stipend for housing) for you, but they won't pay to move your things.  I know for my FI, they expect him to leave his stuff in Florida when he gets TDY orders again in August, but we're paying to move our stuff up since it's cheaper than trying to rent furnished.  He'll be starting his TDY orders as a bachelor, and then we'll be getting married shortly there after (not ideal, but it works out, especially if he gets he post we think he'll get).  We had friends in a similar situation, and the guy just alerted his chain of command that he was about to get married, so rather than have him stay in barracks with the single guys, they gave him single BAH and he used it to rent a house off base.  Once he got married, it was raised to dependent BAH. 


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  • mandaloo502mandaloo502
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    Thanks for input everyone. Calindi- we will be married a week after he commissions and he is guaranteed 2 weeks off before he's put on orders. So yes, we will be married when he goes TDY. If we go to Ft Lewis, it will be for LDAC, which is only for the summer, so we won't be there longer than 2 or 3 months. Would that be too little time to rent a furnished apartment? So does getting married after he's put on TDY increase his chance of getting the post he wants? Or did I just read that wrong?
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_tdy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:b966b817-eda0-4ab5-b94f-b977f54ac9a9Post:e3fc4708-51f4-4571-81ae-291928733563">Re: TDY</a>:
    [QUOTE]Like the ladies said, it depends on the TDY.  And how long it is, what rank he is, whether he's an Officer or Enlisted, and what the duty station has available. My FI is in a similar situation - he's in the Marines, and he's currently finshing up law school.  Once he gets out and takes the bar exam, he'll be waiting to get his results before they'll give him a slot for training.  So he'll be on TDY orders for approximately 5 months, which is extremely common for guys who are in that type of program (JAG, dentist, medical, etc.) Will you be engaged when he starts TDY?  Will you get married while he's on TDY? When my FI was on TDY orders last summer at Parris Island, he stayed on base at the BOQ (Bachelor Officers Quarters) which is like an extended stay hotel.  It was fine, but I wouldn't want to stay there more than a few weeks max.  The guys who were married were given allowances to rent off base.  Even if he's only going to be there for a few months, you can rent a place because as soon as he gets orders elsewhere, it gives you the right to cancel the lease without penalty. If you're married when he starts his TDY, they should give him BAH (stipend for housing) for you, but they won't pay to move your things.  I know for my FI, they expect him to leave his stuff in Florida when he gets TDY orders again in August, but we're paying to move our stuff up since it's cheaper than trying to rent furnished.  He'll be starting his TDY orders as a bachelor, and then we'll be getting married shortly there after (not ideal, but it works out, especially if he gets he post we think he'll get).  We had friends in a similar situation, and the guy just alerted his chain of command that he was about to get married, so rather than have him stay in barracks with the single guys, they gave him single BAH and he used it to rent a house off base.  Once he got married, it was raised to dependent BAH. 
    Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

    <div>CAL! Our kind call it TAD or PTAD. :)</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_tdy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:b966b817-eda0-4ab5-b94f-b977f54ac9a9Post:25e1adef-3dbe-4d3c-9016-33d822661ebb">Re: TDY</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: TDY : CAL! Our kind call it TAD or PTAD. :)
    Posted by WishIcouldbeinthe'stan[/QUOTE]

    Haha, oh, the acronyms! I'd seen it in an email from his OSO as TDY?  Or ADOS Orders, more often.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_tdy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:b966b817-eda0-4ab5-b94f-b977f54ac9a9Post:f771f27f-ab6f-48b8-aa7a-3c7d844b6cf3">Re: TDY</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: TDY : Haha, oh, the acronyms! I'd seen it in an email from his OSO as TDY?  Or ADOS Orders, more often.
    Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

    <div>REALLY?! I've only ever heard Army/AF use TDY. Well then, I rescind my earlier statement. OSOs certainly know their business better than I.</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_tdy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:b966b817-eda0-4ab5-b94f-b977f54ac9a9Post:c7282006-1daa-477c-9e22-2457472830d8">Re: TDY</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: TDY : REALLY?! I've only ever heard Army/AF use TDY. Well then, I rescind my earlier statement. OSOs certainly know their business better than I.
    Posted by WishIcouldbeinthe'stan[/QUOTE]

    I dunno, I'm kind of learning new acronyms every day!  But I've heard ADOS the most regarding FI's stuff.

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  • TeamBabyTeamBaby
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_tdy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:b966b817-eda0-4ab5-b94f-b977f54ac9a9Post:0385f749-cba2-4b36-bad3-d335d45e7bad">Re: TDY</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thanks for input everyone. Calindi- we will be married a week after he commissions and he is guaranteed 2 weeks off before he's put on orders. So yes, we will be married when he goes TDY. If we go to Ft Lewis, it will be for LDAC, which is only for the summer, so we won't be there longer than 2 or 3 months. Would that be too little time to rent a furnished apartment? So does getting married after he's put on TDY increase his chance of getting the post he wants? Or did I just read that wrong?
    Posted by mandaloo502[/QUOTE]

    LDAC is only 5 weeks long.  Def not enough time to be worth renting an off-post place.  Why is he going to LDAC after he commissions?  Typically ROTC cadets go between junior and senior year?  As for your original question, have him ask around about lodging.  LDAC has a lot of field training, so I wouldn't be surprised if they were all housed in barracks, but since he'd already be commissioned, he could potentially get put in a hotel.

    Not sure exactly what you're asking with your last question here.  Being married doesn't make a difference when it comes to assignments.  While he's in BOLC, he can call his branch manager (the person who will put him on assignment) and ask what his options are for assignments/posts.  The cadre might tell him and his class NOT to call branch, but screw that- have him do it early on.  There's nothing wrong with being proactive with his career. 
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  • mandaloo502mandaloo502
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    Sorry to clarify, He's not attending LDAC he already did that this past summer. He would be instructing there as cadre ( that would be the TDY assignment) so he'd be there while LDAC is in session, Which may be from June to August. And the last question was referring to something calindi said in her post about her hubby's post assignment. I wasn't referring to me, my FI should find out his duty station in March :)
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